Each of us has a different story with our friends. Friends also are the basis for our lifestyle. Living in the cities requires us to have a financial status to fit in with others’ worlds. However, our different stories are reflective from growing up in different countries, culture, traditions, and customs. Well, whether you have a good or bad experiences with your friends, one fact that always stands is that we could not live without a friend. Who wants to live in this world alone? (Husbands or wives are a different story.)
I noticed then, that everyone is talking about a lot of stuff about friends, and shares their experiences and opinion. On how good it was, or how bad it was. For that reason, I decided to share my own views. This was supposed to be a comment originally, but it so happened that my reply is longer than I thought. So I decided to write an article and publish! Also, I wanted to share some of my experiences in having a friend, on how I keep them, or what I did to end it as well. Truly, it is sad to be end a friendship after the years you built it with a person, a person you thought was a very good friend of yours—a best friend! That you and her were like only the people in this world! At first, you cannot see that there is something wrong in the relationship you both shared, so you ignore it, as she is your best friend. Until something happens. I already saw some of these situations happen, and it is very sad that at times a guy is the problem and the other friend couldn’t accept this.
Actually, I really don’t have a friend that I spent time like this with. I do have some friends, but they are mostly cousins on my father’s side. I often only hang out with them because we are just neighbors, but I am more close to my mother side—but they live far away. On the contrary, we have a lot of differences, so I cannot call them my best friends or be very close with them because they truly hate me (and I could see the envious looks in their eyes). Like, if there was a new guy we met together, or they met him first ... then, always turns out that he gave me more attention or was more interested in me than one of them. I only go out with them sometimes (I choose to stayed at home), and there is no close attachment with them. I guess, just hanging out as a cousins makes you part of their girlfriends.
It’s so hard to fit in if their actions are and attitude are opposite than yours—like if they are intentionally getting the men’s attention in very vulgar and disrespectful ways. What’s more, they like to talk and criticize others (especially beautiful women), and about men and their crushes, which I am very not interested to talk about. If ever I try not to hang out with them, they will hate me, and I don’t want that happen as we are cousins and neighbors as well (I guess, to be honest, I don’t want to see their sharp looks at me when I pass their houses). I know isn’t truly right, but if I didn’t hang with them, they will say bad things about me (they make stories against you, even though they aren’t true), and they will criticize me to the fullest in front of anyone behind my back (I know what kind of people they are).
I only meet new friends at school. I had a few friends that I got close to in grade school, but they went to another school in high school. We lost contact and most of my new friends were not really compatible, or could be called my BFF. We are all just friends. As the result, I don’t have permanent close friends and most are just passing through my life, especially if we are not together in the class next year. While I am finding and waiting for my soul mate, I also waited for my so called BFF. Despite this, the friends I have have stayed my friends. But I love my friends, actually—I am just such a stay-at-home person! And here in my country (or even in others probably), it is not necessary to end a friendship, unless, there is a serious reason. Typically, we just stay the way we are, and we all move on to our own lives if we do not click that much. But we will stay on good terms if we see each other if ever we meet by chance. We know that life is busy.
