A true friend stabs in the front - Oscar Wilde
A few weeks ago I got a message saying my best friend was sleeping with my ex boyfriend, who had left me, in fact, texting her. I am sure anyone would be tongue tied with such news. I never knew this was happening behind my back. It hurt me and it tore me apart because I still held a candle for this man in my heart and what’s even worse is the trust I had for my best friend. The point of this story is not to condemn anyone for what happened or pass judgment, because I was not even sure if this story was true or false and up to now am still not sure, because I just go with what my female intuition tells me and my brain.
Question is what would a true friend do as soon as he or she heard the facts of this story? a) Dismiss what happened because it was a jealous ex boyfriend who leaked out the un-seeming truth b) Stand up for your best friend and believe that all that was told was a lie, keeping in mind that the ex was a good friend of mine too and he never lied to me before. What makes a person a true friend?
Proverbs 24:26 “An honest answer is the answer of true friendship” and Ecclesiastes 4: 9 – 12 “Two are better than one, because together they can work more effectively. If one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls, it’s just too bad, because there is no one to help him. If it is cold, two can sleep together and stay warm, but how can you keep warm by yourself? Two people can resist an attack that would defeat one person alone. A rope made of three cords is hard to break.” To summarize these in short, a true friend is someone who has your back no matter what, and tells you the truth even if the truth may hurt. A true friend is also someone who treats you like family; family does support and help one of their own.
When things like these happen a trust for a friend becomes shaken because you really don’t know who to believe. I felt that despite these happenings there were a few lies told on the way and therefore I did not trust anyone. People in these types of situations usually tend to tell lie quite a lot. Truth is I don’t know if that happened or did not happen, I just felt what my heart was telling me, and it was not good. On one side felt that if I was really a friend, I should have stuck up for my friend no matter what, but I did not. I should not have allowed such mundane things to shake the trust I had for her. That goes to show how much trusted my friend at the same time; a good friend does not just out of the blue fabricate stories that will hurt a person.
Even if this happened, a true friend should have told a friend the truth no matter what happened, we all are human beings and we make mistakes. I would have been hurt but then came back to my sense because it’s just an ex boyfriend, even if he slept with a cow or a goat because it is none of my beeswax. Secondly, true friends do not let men, women, or anything separate them; true friends are more like marriage partners. Thirdly, a true friend does not sleep with a friend’s boyfriend, ex’ boyfriend, or anything close to her being a male behind the friend’s back, it shows lack of respect for a fellow friend and how much self esteem you have as a person
