A friend of mine called me last night and told me a long story about almost everything that bugs her lately.
Well, you know we always belongs to different groups of friends. Often you like to hang out with this group because they like to watch movie and read books, so you all can discuss about it while sipping coffee at the cafe. Another time, you hang out with that group because all of you are going to the party and need to find new dress or even accessories together.
So anyway, this close friend of mine also has this kind of group. She’s married and people in this group are also young couples with children. Their husbands met during routine activities and eventually the wives also joined the club. I often heard they hang out together all day long. Brunch in Bogor and having dinner back in Jakarta or the other way around. She was even loved by the children of this group. The children always welcomed her and they love being with her, and she loves being with them.
But the happy moments are now over. She feels that most of the time she is an outcast among her friends. They always discuss and decide things before she arrives, or they inform her that they will have this gathering somewhere and promise to pick her up ... only they don’t. And later she found out that they have left her behind without informing her, making promises to have another gathering that they have no intention to keep or remember. She even feels that perhaps now because she has no job and is a housewife, these people started to ignore her and underestimate her.
When I heard that, I told her to get new groups, friends, or whatever to broaden her mind. And to comfort her, I said that probably those so-called friends are just seasonal friends. It was fun in the past when she was out with them. But if now they do nothing but hurt her feelings, then perhaps she just has to move on. And do not feel bad about it, because, well ... that’s just the way things are. There are happy times when you wish to turn off the clock to stop the time. And then there are those sad moments when you wish you could forward the time or just go back to the past and make it all go away.
Almost nothing lasts forever ... We only have a short moment in this world, so why should we waste time with people who do not love and appreciate us?