I sometimes do not understand my friends and why they love to bring their boyfriends to a gal-only gathering ...
A few months ago, I invited my friends to have dinner at a restaurant to celebrate my birthday. Then a friend of mine asked me to bring her boyfriend. I mean, wouldn’t that be awkward for her boyfriend to be with us since he knew almost no one? But that did not happen as most of my friends were unavailable on that date, so I postponed it ...
Then a few days ago, we finally managed to gather around to celebrate my (late) birthday and then the same person asked me again whether she could bring her (new) boyfriend. I mean, come on, I do not wish to have a total stranger at my birthday party and besides, what would that guy do while we were all chatting about our life? Just stare?
I used to hang out with married couples and their kids and that is okay, as I know this is not just a “gal gathering” but the whole bunch. However, I do not appreciate if my friend is not sensitive enough to bring her so-called soul mate to the gal gathering and end up busy with her lover and ignoring us completely ...
I really do understand when a couple just wants to be together. If that is the case, then just go and make a special day for the two of you. But do not ask your friends, especially those who are still single, like me, to be the audience. It is really inconsiderate and really, can you be more understanding for us? And even if you do talk to us, what is going to happen with your boyfriend? We hardly know him and he has no idea about us. We are not gathering to drill him and I do not think he is ready to be attacked by so many questions …
Anyway, thanks for asking before you bring your date to the gal gathering ... Just please do not be mad if I say no.
