Are you one of the people who has difficulty saying no?
It’s understandable since you don’t want to disappoint anyone. However, replying right away with a “yes” can leave you with a crowded schedule and a feeling of resentment. You might get the sense that since you’ve always been willing to help, you are being taken for granted. You could also feel a little flattered that someone thought you capable.
If you’re afraid that by refusing, you won’t be liked, understand that it’s your self-confidence that is shaky! No one expects you to be available all the time. And, don’t feel guilty if you can’t think of a valid reason for not accepting.
Here are some suggestions for developing creative answers that you can draw upon when the time comes:
“Thank you for asking but I won’t be able to do it.”
Keep it short and don’t explain why. Your explanation can be manipulated so you end up saying yes.
“No, I’m really sorry but I can’t.”
This is your reply, if the person persists and doesn’t want to take “no” for an answer.
“I’ll have to check with my husband, calendar, etc. to see if we have something planned.”
This gives you some time to think about it and decide if you want to do it.
“I’ll let you know by tomorrow.”
You’ll keep your reputation as a dependable person.
Lending a helping hand or just doing your share of committee work leaves you with a glowing sense of satisfaction. By being selective, you will enjoy participating and putting your best efforts forward.
Originally published on Not Just the Kitchen
