Why Do We Love Them?

In our home, we have two basset hounds, a three year old stray named Sweet Pea and an 18 month old named Barnabus Wadley, aka Barney. We’ve had Barney since he was about 8 weeks old. Sweet Pea entered our lives about two months ago as a stray. We found her original owners who were ready to send her to the pound. We couldn’t let that happen, so she became a part of our family.

Before last year, our family had never had pets. We saw no use for them. Why would you want an animal in your house? You have to feed it, bathe it, walk it, clean up after it, your house smells like dogs constantly, there’s hair everywhere, and not to mention the noises they make at all the wrong moments.

Last year, however, when I our children were five, four, and three, we realized something. Our kids were scared of dogs. They were terrified of all animals really. My sister had a cat, and if it walked into the room, the kids would scream bloody murder. “AHHHHHHH! What is that!! Get it away!!” Literally every time a four legged creature would approach them, the kids would scream as if there were no tomorrow. I had a stranger one time in a gardening center chastise me because my kids cried when his Irish wolfhound approached them to be petted and they flipped out. (It was HUGE dog, though!)

We realized it was a problem. It was not just the big ones they were frightened of. It was the small ones. My oldest wouldn’t hold a gerbil at school because she was afraid of it. Why? Her reasoning was that it had fur.

My husband and I discussed it for weeks. We looked at all the cons of having a dog that I listed above. And then we listed the pro: our children needed it.

We researched dog breeds and talked and looked and hunted for just the right one. I put a note out on our local free cycle group asking if anyone had a basset they wanted to get rid of, preferably a puppy. It happened that a local man had a mom dog that was getting ready to give birth. He said we could have the pick of the litter, and that when the pup was weaned he would be ours, for free!

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08.22.2008
judith
hey, you sound so different in this story! Really grounded in a good, satisfying experience. You rock, Trish. Clean houses! Who has them? The rich and the neurotic. As you said, it's all about the kids, i.e., "life". Messy messy life. BTW: you said in your 1st entry that men "deserve" a wife who keeps a clean house. Tell me this: what does a wife and Mom "deserve"? A good man says, hey, take it easy. You have 3 active kids to corral all day. How do you do it? there are years ahead to have an orderly life if it's really what we want. No one even approaches balance and order and perfect home life, NO ONE. Not even a tiny bit. Just roll around with the dogs, I say. Love, Judy
I agree: I bet you're never dog-free! And that's not a bad thing at all.
Very sweet story. But I am afraid that after the wonderful experiences that you are having right now with your doggies you may chose not to have pet-free house in the future, even when the kids are married off and have their own children :-)
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