I’ve had three clients this week tell me how they tend to be buddies with men and get no dates. It goes something like this:
1. She talks to a lot of men and they seem to like her; but none ask her out.
2. While she doesn’t connect with single men, the married and attached men adore her. In fact, they tell her they can’t figure out why she hasn’t met a fantastic man yet.
Sound familiar? This was 100 percent my story when I was single. I had tons of men who really dug me. But none happened to be cool single guys.
Here are my (shortened) responses to this:
1. You aren’t getting asked out because you are connecting with your masculine energy. They think of you as a pal.
Start working on expressing your lovely feminine qualities in addition to your other more masculine qualities. Throw on that cute dress and heels, be open and willing to show vulnerability, flirt, and receive graciously. Oh, and stop trying to fake that you have it all together. We all know you don’t. In other words: be real and be a girl.
2. Married men like you because they know you!
When you are with unavailable men, you are your authentic self. You don’t have those walls up, you aren’t stuck in your head, and you’re not being taken over by your gremlins and insecurities.
After all, these guys aren’t available, so there is no need for all that nonsense, right?
These guys like you because you are being you! You should try that some time with the single guys.
Chew on that.
Let me know how it goes.
