I, as a lady in my early twenties, find something about older men very attractive. Maybe it’s because I find them wise, mature, interesting, and their sense of humor over the top, while they in return are attracted to me because am young, beautiful, and full of life. I am sure some of us (especially if you’re an African) have been told the same stories about a thousand times by either our history teachers, parents or uncles and aunts, about how our ancestors, men especially, used to marry young ladies who were as young as fifteen or as soon she began menstruating, they were given off for to these men who were old enough to be their grandfathers and great grandfathers. As the world moves on these days younger ladies are protected by the law and it’s even illegal to be caught going out with a sixteen year old girl, it would be termed as “child abuse” or “cradle snatching”. Relationships between older men and younger women are now frowned upon.
So what is it about older men that attract us younger ladies towards older men?
Financial stability—At least he gets a regular paycheck unlike their younger counterparts, is settled, and has a stable job. He does not need “daddy or mummy’s money” to take you on a date or wherever you may choose to go. There is no problem with dating a man who’s financially stable, the only down side is the younger women tend to be labeled as ‘‘gold diggers’’. I remember me and my two friends used to dance to Kanye West’s “Gold Digger” saying we want to end up being successful lawyers and in no way are we going to date broke men (keep in mind we like our older men) I do not think that idea went along well with people.
Sexually experienced—mmmmh!! Need I say more … At least you know you are not having sex with someone who cannot even locate your vagina. Older men are way better in the sack because they have had sex longer than we have been alive, so they know how to satisfy a woman. They’re much better too if you think about it because at least they care about our needs and pleasure; because of this, it makes them even more attractive. The only downfall is that some of them may have a less sex drive due to their age. Well I am yet to meet one with a low sex drive.
Father figure—this word to me is very disturbing because I have a dad, so I don’t believe I need a father figure. However for some women they view the older man as a father or a mentor. Some women have never had a father figure in their lives so psychologically they may be trying to fulfill the longing for a father figure in their lives. This is beneficial to the men because they have someone who looks up to them and admires them.
Maturity—I don’t want to date a man whose brain cannot think beyond his PSP, X box, and skateboarding. Men who are older have lived for years and with years come wisdom, knowledge, and experience. Some younger ladies want to date a man who will pay attention to her rather than her younger counterparts who just want to hang in a bar or play some PSP game. I tend to find that men my age are just “overgrown boys’’, even their conversation skills are very quite limited unlike older men. Women mature faster than men, so we may just want a man who is mature and who also is an interesting conversationalist. The negative thing about this is that some men may date some younger ladies who are pretty immature … but in the end we all know how we like our cream in our coffee …
