I realized something important this week about how men think and act.
It's that men who pay attention and think about the feelings they have, why they have them, what they mean and how to talk about them are RARE.
And it's even more unique and special for a man to pay attention to his feelings in relationships with women and to be able to talk openly about them.
So like everyone else, I like to think that I'm special.
But am I really different than other men?
Ok, I'm hoggin the newsletter for myself, my ego is getting carried away...
Here's what I want to talk to you about-
Why can't men talk about their feelings?
It's like they're helpless morons when it comes to knowing and sharing how they feel with you.
And why do men react so weird when you want to talk about things like issues, emotions, relationships, commitment, marriage?
The answer is pretty fascinating but has more than one simple dimension to it.
Let me ask you...
Have you ever asked a man how he feels about you or your situation and then he starts acting all freaked out?
He turns into a deer in headlights.
Or even worse, he starts getting angry and frustrated and turns the conversation back on you with unrelated problems or issues.
Well, you've run into the BRICK WALL guys have with relationship communication.
And guess what?
It's YOUR fault!
Yep, I'm not letting you shift the blame to someone else for what matters in your life.
As some of my more enlightened friends like to say:
“Don't go to victim”
If you know someone can't communicate a certain way, it's up to you to find a better way.
Then once you can reach them you can help them improve.
As the saying goes,
“Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice and shame on me.”
So are you continuing to bang your head against the brick wall?
Shame on you!
Lots of women do - all their lives over and over in relationships until they've become convinced that men are idiots and you can't ever make things work.
Quit it for cryin' out loud!
There's a better way, but you'll never figure things out just trying what makes sense to YOU.
Don't be RIDICULOUS!
(here's where I get all up in your face!)
Planning and approaching issues in your life just by what “makes sense” is not only naive, it's honestly pretty stupid.
That's why people go to school, they go to college, they study and read, they go through job training and THEN they go out and make a go of it.
So how much thinking, planning, reading and learning have you done around the things that effect your relationships and your love life?
Maybe you picked up the latest best-seller by some publishers daughter on something dumb like how swans mate and are monogamous and you and your guy can be beautiful and happy like swans in love too...
Hey, not a bad idea. Maybe I'll write a book about that.
Not!
Seriously though...
Are you banging your head against the wall?
Or are you looking to learn?
Here something fascinating to learn...
Men have a “SECRET BUTTON” you can push that will make communicating with them almost effortless.
And if you learn what it is and how to use it you'll be able to get at what he really thinks and feels... and teach him how to talk to and understand you.
So let me take you through a situation I guarantee you've either been in before or you'll be in with a man...
HELLO!
That means pay attention because this is one of those “universal situations” that can mean priceless knowledge for you.
Let's say your talking with a man you're interested in and you want to take things to “the next level” but you don't know how.
