How Do You Get Through a Breakup?

Relationships are difficult at times. The thing is, it takes two to make it work. Depending on why you had your breakup if it was mutual or with hard feelings, reading what other's have mention is a good start; surrounding yourself around people and things you like to do. Sometimes finding new hobbies helps ease the pain because it allows you to keep busy and you have less time to think about the break up. Be thankful for the good times you shared with that special person and pray you have learned from the bad times you experienced this way it won't be carried over to the next relationship you might find yourself in. The one thing that makes it hard to get over, is if you got closure or not. If you did get closure, keep yourself busy and around people or get a pet! If you didn't get closure, work on that to ease your pain. God bless you.

It is always good to surround yourself with friends and family, at least the ones that make you feel good inside. For me, it helps to relax, have a few drinks and talk with good friends. There really isn't any right/wrong way to handle it. Normally, it depends on the person. But, I do know for a fact that when you are going through the emotions, it's not that effective to be alone as often. You will find yourself thinking, which will lead to more sadness. Granted, it is good to cry, but choose those tears wisely. Keeping in mind that this will only make you stronger and you just need time and people that love and care for you.

alex... i agree with you. i too broke up with my girlfriend after 2 and half years and the sad part about it all is that 5 months later i still dont know why i did it. a week after the break up i was in someone else's arms. 2 months later we moved in together. yes we still together but i'm not over my ex... i still miss her more than i care to admit. but i made my bed and now i got to lie in it....

GIRL..just cry it all out...we feel sad, because the pain is inside us..so just CRY IT ALL OUT, till you're out of tears..if you have to reminisce the good times, just to get the tears out, DO IT! IT WOULD make u feel good, and therefore think right afterwards...TRUST ME...I'VE DONE IT A LOT....YOu have to face and embrace the pain....then ACCEPT IT...ONCE you've accepted it, THAT'S THE TIME u can move on...
DIVERT UR ATTENTION TO DIFFERENT THINGS...salon, spa, gym, borders, go out with friends..as much as possible, DO NOT BE ALONE!! MEET OTHER PEOPLE!!

I was friends with this guy at work for about a year. He had a girlfriend and a kid with her. I always had the biggest crush on him to the point where it hurt me. I could also tell that though he was with someone he had feelings for me as well. Well they broke up and shortly after me and him were bf and gf...i know it wasn't my best choice but i liked him and in fact thought i loved him. well we lasted a little over 2 months and he broke it off with me to go back to her. i am so upset, i can not stop crying, i wanna leave my job, but in a sense am scared too...then i know i will never see him again...ive lost weight and just feel like i wanna curl up and die. i cant handle these feelings and cant handle that everytime my phone rings i hope its him. i feel like he was the one for me, the only person i could possibly love. i just don't know what to do anymore i need help.

well i went through a break up, break ups are not easy the best advice don't let him be the topic of every subject, keep yourself busy and just go out and have fun and hey you only have you to think about you and you never know everything that's bad always bring out the good too so now this is your time to eother meet someone new!!!

It's been a week now since my breakup and though it's not easy, I have taken some steps to move on. AJ - thanks for the advice. I've decided to pick up and move from Denver to San Francisco in December, need a change of pace and a big city seems like a good idea. I've been updating my resume and looking for roommates, (actually have a good girlfriend that I may move in with) and I've changed my hair...very therapeutic for some reason. I still have my breakdowns, moments where I think about what could have been, but having such a huge change coming in a few months is very exciting and gives me something to work and focus on. This all may sound a bit drastic, but it feels right. I've also begun seeing a therapist, never thought I'd do that but it helps to have someone who isn't emotionally attached listen to me. Thanks!

You are going to go through several stages but here are some ways to make it easier. Spend time with friends and family. Concentrate on YOU...figure out what you like, take a class, do something off the wall that you've always thought about, take a trip with friends, DANCE, make a change (like your hair color or cut, how you dress, where you hang out), get a second job....a FUN one, take long baths and listen to good music, read good inspirational and motivating books, take chances, WRITE, talk about it when you need to, cry when you need to, start fresh like...move to a new place, get a new career, buy a new car! And...I drank a little too! ;) You will work through it....its not always gonna be fun and it will be hard but you will find YOURSELF along the way. GOOD LUCK and keep your head up!

My boyfriend of a year just ripped the rug out from under me and broke up with me Monday. I am devestated. We had a long distance relationship and I was getting ready to move in with him in 3 months. We had a few issues, mainly about my inability to open up, but I think that was just his excuse. I've been crying non-stop for 5 days, have eaten only a slice of peach since Monday night and flew home to see my mother. I'm a complete zombie, crying all the time and not being able to get off the couch. I feel like my whole life is gone and I'm not going to be able to get through this. I just turned 30 and thought he was the one. I don't know what to do. Advice?

she has left. she wants to find herself and move up with her co. leaving me hurt, confused and financially stripped. It is gonna be tough to make it money wise for a while. She has left almost all her things still here. I need to move forward. It hard with this stuff still here.