It could be a simple fix or more than likely, it’s a deep-seated issue that they’ll have to work out and work on. It’s not easy to change. And while these women are working on this, they’ll probably find that they are not ready to be in the serious relationship they thought they wanted.
Men won’t commit … because you women won’t commit.
Let’s be honest ladies, you’re sending men some mixed messages and impossible contradictions.
You say you want a man to be strong, yet you also want him to cave in when you want something.
You want a man to be attentive and kind and open but not too available or too much of a pushover.
You want a man to make good money but not be too wrapped up in his job so that it takes time away from you.
Maybe the guys who are on the exciting side are exciting because they don’t care much for what women are telling them to be, they’re just be-ing. They are out and about. Traveling. Making money. On dates. Working out.
In other words, these guys are a bit selfish. They don’t need to be in a relationship with you to make their lives interesting. The nice, responsible guys who can give you the security and commitment you seek … well, you tend to find them boring.
“Why don’t guys call when they say will?”
First off, men unduly get a bad rap on this because the burden is on them to ask for your phone number and make that initial call in the first place.
I answer this question with a couple questions: “Why does a girl give her phone number to a guy she’s not interested in?” “Why do women not call back after they’ve given their number out?” Come on ladies, you’ve all done it.
There are many reasons why a guy doesn’t call and a girl doesn’t return a call: sobering up, second thoughts, a more interesting option they’d rather focus on to name a few, and they’re all valid enough.
The reasons are really irrelevant. The bright side is you haven’t invested much or wasted much time if someone doesn’t call you or call you back. Easy come, easy go.
“Get your man to say ‘I do!’”
A man has to realize he wants to be in a serious relationship and/or marriage on his own. No coercing, no mind games, no special lingerie—yes, really—will change that.
But this is a good thing ladies. You want him to figure this out on his own. You don’t want to have to trick a guy into saying “I do” before he’s ready or you will pay for this later on—infidelity, resentment, divorce. Bottom line—do you really want to convince someone he should marry you?
It’s your responsibility, male or female, to figure out who you are and what you want in life and in relationships. Then, act on it and communicate it honestly.
These articles really aren’t solutions but complaints and desperate attempts to change things outside of your control. What these articles should do is assist you in finding out who you are, what you want, and then, whom you should go after.
Ladies, when you do this, you’re more likely to find the good guy who will call you, commit to you, and say “I do.”
