1. Bars
This is not an option unless you are going there to see a band or a stand up comedian. I say it doesn’t hurt to see a comedian on a first date because it gives you a chance to see your date’s personality. If you are laughing your head off and he/she is just sitting there as stiff as a board, this relationship will most likely not work.
I have found that the key to a lasting relationship is fun. If you don’t think the same things are funny, it is off to a bad start. I can hear you now saying, “That’s not true.” Oh, believe me, my dear, it is. I’m not going to analyze that here, but take my word for it. Life without laughter will kill you faster than eating eggs and bacon every day until you die of a heart attack.
If you are on this kind of date, just try to have fun and enjoy yourself and never try to convince someone that something was funny. It either was to them or it wasn’t. I always say: the audience will always tell you what they think is funny. If they don’t laugh, it’s not. (To them) If your date didn’t laugh at the comedian, then just move on with your evening.
2. Parties
This is a bad choice because if you do go to a party, it will be to one of your friend’s house or one of their friend’s house. You will spend most of your evening talking to people you already know about things you most likely don’t care about. (If it is a friend of yours throwing the party.) If you go to his or her friends, you will most likely be sitting there with no one talking to you … except the nerd who wishes he was with you.
Also, your friends have a tendency to bring up crazy awkward moments from the past, like, “Hey dude, remember when you got so messed up you crapped your pants?” That is not going to make a good impression on your date. Not only that, but people will most likely be drinking, unless you are at the All Saint’s Bible Bash for reformed alcoholics. You don’t want to be in a position where either you or your date gets drunk or someone else gets drunk and throws up on you.
Another reason not to go to a friend’s party—what if your ex shows up? You most likely had friends in common with your ex, and they were likely to also get an invite. That would just be bad drama.
3. The All Saint’s Bible Bash—Just Kidding. Any Religious Event
People often feel awkward going to another’s religious affiliation event. Unless you go to the same church or temple, mosque, whatever, don’t go to a religious organization’s anything. For all you know they are an atheist. Worse, they could have a dislike of your particular religious affiliation. The last thing you want is a discussion about you defending your religion. This doesn’t make for good date conversation.
