Every week I run into people who appear to have given up on their goal of finding a new partner, whether it’s a long-term marriage commitment or even a casual relationship. It always intrigues me because I’d never give up. I know that if I were alone today that I could find someone to spend time with. I just know it all the way to my bones. So why don’t they?
Self-confidence and self-like is a problem for some women. They don’t think someone would like them just the way they are. To be honest, in some cases it’s true. If people don’t like themselves very much, chances are nobody else is going to like them either. Their body language and their facial expressions are not welcoming and friendly. Most people in this group should make a list of their good qualities to appreciate just how special they really are.
Then there are the ones who tend to give up rather than feel like a failure if they don’t find someone right away. They’d rather sit at home waxing their upper lip rather than being out and about meeting new people. Seriously, does it matter to anyone whether you’re with a partner or not? Maybe your mother but frankly, that’s it. Nobody really gives a shit, and even if they notice, they’ll only notice it for about five minutes and then they’re on to thinking about someone else.
Some people think that dating and meeting new people takes too much time and they don’t have much to spare. Type A personalities who are married to their jobs might fit in this group. In reality, dating does take a bit of time, but quality lives are made of making time for work, family, friends, and community. Our personalities are forged by the friends we have and if you don’t have many, you’re a pretty sad person, I think, and your personality has suffered for it. It’s never too late to mend your ways.
So if you’re looking for a new relationship in your life and you’ve read this far, I’ve got good advice for you.
Keep on trying. Join a dating site if you haven’t already and write to as many people as you can that you think might fit your requirements. Be as particular as you want to be because there are heaps of men looking on any day that you show up. Some will be losers and some will be definite winners. The choice is always yours.
My sage advice (I’m old, you know): Don’t worry that you’ll write to a bunch of people who won’t reply or won’t want to meet you. It doesn’t matter. You won’t be right for everyone. The real fact is that you won’t get a reply from any email you don’t send.
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