Men love sex and they will undoubtedly try to get some from you, but that doesn’t mean they want you to say yes. Confusing, I know, but the type of women men want to settle down with are the type of women who are picky about being intimate. Everyone can think of a situation where they or someone they know has been dumped soon after starting a sexual relationship with a guy.
The reason waiting to have sex is so important is because you want your guy to be attached to you emotionally before you are intimate. Give yourselves plenty of time to get to know each other before you have sex. When the guy is head over heals for you before you make love it will only deepen and strengthen your relationship, not tear it apart.
It is also much easier for a woman to walk from a relationship if she has not been intimate with a man. If it doesn’t end up working out and you have never had sex, no problem, just move on. No emotional attachment, no strings attached, and no notches in your bedpost.
The “right time” is different for everyone, so do a little soul searching and figure out what is right for you. Figure out what guidelines are right for you before you enter a new relationship and stick to them no matter what. Let’s practice saying no together: “Do you want dessert?” “No.” “Do you want fries with that?” “No.” “Do you want to have sex with me tonight?” “No.” Good job.
I tend to be conservative about sex, but my general guidelines are listed below:
- Wait until you are married. These people tend to have the best marriages. If you have already had sex but wish you could go back then become a “born again virgin.” Just tell your future dates that you are mature now and realize the significance of sex. If they don’t respect your celibacy then you don’t need to be with them anyway, so move on.
