My husband says for a dude, subtle things mean a lot---and he is forever grateful that I am not demanding. Demanding or expecting "something" or "some token" is the best way to make sure you are never given it freely. We surprise each other all the time...it is the surprise that makes it romantic...it is the thought. I have had relationships with men that gave huge bundles of flowers, jewelry, chocolates, and fancy cards....but they had great expectations for what they thought I should so easily give for trinkets of affection. My husband can walk up behind me and whisper in my ear how much he loves me or how sexy I look--forget the trinkets, just give me the sweet nothings...little sweet nothings. Free your husbands and boyfriends from using their pocketbooks to impress you...then step back and watch the real surprises surface.
There's a book entitled Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. It's very helpful in the way I relate to my fiance (and other loved ones). I understood that different people feel loved through different ways. I feel loved when I'm hugged. I feel loved when my fiance spends time with me just talking. My fiance likes it very much when I commend him for something he had done well - big or smalll stuff. He is also affectionate like me, so he appreciates hugs (though we committed to no kisses & bed til we get married). Men do romance their women. They're the ones who often do the romancing, it seems.. plus they get tired at work, too. So I think they deserve some treat from time to time. I think they deserve to be romanced. Whatever is our man's love language - time, gift, affection, words of affirmation, service, or anything else - I'm sure we women can & should make them special, too. It's not so difficult, we're creative women... nothing's too difficult for us, right? ;-)
the so call man that ive had in my life told me that romanced was 4 woman and most man dont care 4 the romanced.stuff because man are hard .and they dont want other guys laughting at them.so i dont do the romanced stuff anymore.
I do not know about Romanced, but Appreciated, yes..
My husband used to send me flowers/roses every year for valentine's day. And, then after a couple of years, we both decided to stop because of how much they costs and then of course, we started having our children. i can look back now and remember how i looked forward to receiving them. I would always get him chocolate candy and a card. This past year after i had separated, I had been dating a guy for several months. I was so excited to be seeing him on valentines day, that I got very nervouse about what to buy him. I spent a long time in the store trying to think about what to get him. I bought a card, and then some chociolate. He surprised me with a dozen roses and a humorous card. To me, just being able to spend time together is more important than giving. But, of course, we had a great time in bed!!!
I paint, draw, and charcole-I gave my bf a charcole drawing that I had done as one of my frist works. He would always comment on how much he loved it any time he saw it laying around my house. I had it framed in an artsy "guy" fram and presented it to him and his face was so mezmirized (splling?) but you could see the joy and happiness on his face. Recently hes moved into a new place and is using the colors in the drawing and the work it self as the inspiration to decorate. He wouldn't even transport it to his town until he moved to my town out of fear of breaking the glass.
iii Express yourself.You should every now and then tell your partner how much you'd cared for him but try avoiding saying it too often as it would only spells 'D.E.S.P.E.R.A.T.E' and 'N.E.E.D.Y'.By all means,never ever ever be that sort of a girl who guys would pick the last
iv Take initiative.Don't wait for your guy to take the first move.It's the millennium,ask him out instead.You could go strolling in the park,go for movies,eat out or just hang out with him to watch a ball or something.Things that he would like.As of your's,of course
v Pet name.Although it sounds a bit corky,but some guys do likes to play different character than the ones they shared with their friends.A little 'name calling' won't hurt
In a way,yes eventhough they would not admit it themselves.I do believes that even guys have the same desire as of girls as it is in our nature to be loved and take comforts from the opposite sex.There are many ways on how to please your guy
i Through his stomach,nothing would attract a guy's attention than providing him with good food to show how much you cared for your significant other.
ii Manly gifts,such as finding out the things that he would loved to have to send out the vibes that you'd understand him as much as he understand you
eg: if he is the sort of guy who finds art works fascinating,then try buying him exotic sculptures or painting or if you really wanted to attract his attention,then you should try painting yourself.You'll be amazed to the extend of appreciation that he'll show from the little things that you'd do for him
This is very interesting, I was thinking about a special gift for a very special guy, this has given me some insight so I guess the mans necklace is out huh?
I like the idea of a special saying something that says it all, but doesn't get mushy...
Speaking from the heart always works for me...
I have many men who are close in my life, best friends and boyrfriends. One thing I try to sense about each of them is whether they care about "things". It is funny that in my experience, this has been clearly obvious.The ones who love "things", I noticed they tend to value the gifts that show I know them pretty well, that I have been attentive to their interests. It relates to something we have in common or I should know he has a strong interest in. Now for all men, I noticed that the best gift of all is to simply express how very happy something they gave me or did or said made me. A big no-no is to thank them by returning the favor equally, like dinner for a dinner. Instead, I would thank them, in addition to showing my genuine happiness, by planning an evening together, cooking dinner, watching a good movie, or if you are intimate, planning a special night, maybe a nice massage, a bubbly bath, or entertaining foreplay.
