Do Men Want to Be Romanced?

My husband says for a dude, subtle things mean a lot---and he is forever grateful that I am not demanding. Demanding or expecting "something" or "some token" is the best way to make sure you are never given it freely. We surprise each other all the time...it is the surprise that makes it romantic...it is the thought. I have had relationships with men that gave huge bundles of flowers, jewelry, chocolates, and fancy cards....but they had great expectations for what they thought I should so easily give for trinkets of affection. My husband can walk up behind me and whisper in my ear how much he loves me or how sexy I look--forget the trinkets, just give me the sweet nothings...little sweet nothings. Free your husbands and boyfriends from using their pocketbooks to impress you...then step back and watch the real surprises surface.

There's a book entitled Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. It's very helpful in the way I relate to my fiance (and other loved ones). I understood that different people feel loved through different ways. I feel loved when I'm hugged. I feel loved when my fiance spends time with me just talking. My fiance likes it very much when I commend him for something he had done well - big or smalll stuff. He is also affectionate like me, so he appreciates hugs (though we committed to no kisses & bed til we get married). Men do romance their women. They're the ones who often do the romancing, it seems.. plus they get tired at work, too. So I think they deserve some treat from time to time. I think they deserve to be romanced. Whatever is our man's love language - time, gift, affection, words of affirmation, service, or anything else - I'm sure we women can & should make them special, too. It's not so difficult, we're creative women... nothing's too difficult for us, right? ;-)

the so call man that ive had in my life told me that romanced was 4 woman and most man dont care 4 the romanced.stuff because man are hard .and they dont want other guys laughting at them.so i dont do the romanced stuff anymore.

I do not know about Romanced, but Appreciated, yes..

I paint, draw, and charcole-I gave my bf a charcole drawing that I had done as one of my frist works. He would always comment on how much he loved it any time he saw it laying around my house. I had it framed in an artsy "guy" fram and presented it to him and his face was so mezmirized (splling?) but you could see the joy and happiness on his face. Recently hes moved into a new place and is using the colors in the drawing and the work it self as the inspiration to decorate. He wouldn't even transport it to his town until he moved to my town out of fear of breaking the glass.

iii Express yourself.You should every now and then tell your partner how much you'd cared for him but try avoiding saying it too often as it would only spells 'D.E.S.P.E.R.A.T.E' and 'N.E.E.D.Y'.By all means,never ever ever be that sort of a girl who guys would pick the last

iv Take initiative.Don't wait for your guy to take the first move.It's the millennium,ask him out instead.You could go strolling in the park,go for movies,eat out or just hang out with him to watch a ball or something.Things that he would like.As of your's,of course

v Pet name.Although it sounds a bit corky,but some guys do likes to play different character than the ones they shared with their friends.A little 'name calling' won't hurt

In a way,yes eventhough they would not admit it themselves.I do believes that even guys have the same desire as of girls as it is in our nature to be loved and take comforts from the opposite sex.There are many ways on how to please your guy

i Through his stomach,nothing would attract a guy's attention than providing him with good food to show how much you cared for your significant other.

ii Manly gifts,such as finding out the things that he would loved to have to send out the vibes that you'd understand him as much as he understand you

eg: if he is the sort of guy who finds art works fascinating,then try buying him exotic sculptures or painting or if you really wanted to attract his attention,then you should try painting yourself.You'll be amazed to the extend of appreciation that he'll show from the little things that you'd do for him

This is very interesting, I was thinking about a special gift for a very special guy, this has given me some insight so I guess the mans necklace is out huh?
I like the idea of a special saying something that says it all, but doesn't get mushy...
Speaking from the heart always works for me...

I have many men who are close in my life, best friends and boyrfriends. One thing I try to sense about each of them is whether they care about "things". It is funny that in my experience, this has been clearly obvious.The ones who love "things", I noticed they tend to value the gifts that show I know them pretty well, that I have been attentive to their interests. It relates to something we have in common or I should know he has a strong interest in. Now for all men, I noticed that the best gift of all is to simply express how very happy something they gave me or did or said made me. A big no-no is to thank them by returning the favor equally, like dinner for a dinner. Instead, I would thank them, in addition to showing my genuine happiness, by planning an evening together, cooking dinner, watching a good movie, or if you are intimate, planning a special night, maybe a nice massage, a bubbly bath, or entertaining foreplay.

I enjoy doing all of the little things that make up romance in her eyes. What would be great to me would be a get-away to a state park. A new fishing lure or pocket knife. To spend time with me in a place away from it all with rugged natural beauty. A walk through the woods to an open meadow where I could hunt high and low for that perfect wild flower to put in her hair after I check it for bugs. A night out under the stars listening to the radio and cuddling or dancing naked around the camp fire. Being wild and free from the bonds of this sophisticated world if only for a little while is the perfect way for her to romance me.

I think they secretly love the idea of romance...but if handled differently. I once surprised my boyfriend by planning out a whole evening...all he had to do was show up. I had candles everywhere, champagne chilling. He walked in a note told him to open champagne and pour. I came out dressed to the nines. I had dinner all ready. We ate, then I told him we were leaving...I took him downtown to see a concert that had one of his fav groups. He liked that I took the initiative, and it felt more like seduction to him, which was great for his ego.!

Most guys I know shy away from the big production on Valentine's Day. They call it a "girl's holiday". Being single for so long I used to dread it along with several of my single girlfriends. I have dated guys around that time of year who would send me flowers or take me to dinner and in return, I have bought chocolates, candy etc. for them. But, the best gift I gave to a guy (so I was told) was when I made home made chocolate chip cookies and used heart shaped cut outs, put them on a colorful plate and wrapped them with clear Valentine wrap (complete with a bow)...made them look pretty. He really liked the fact that I took the time to make him something from the heart...and he enjoyed eating them too!

My wonderful husband loves to receive a well written VDay card, so I take extreme care to pick out one that says exactly how I feel about him and our relationship. If I find one that falls short, I handwrite my feelings on the card. He loves it! He has simple needs and works two jobs. We'll hang out all day to connect. My hubby loves to be appreciated so I'll make an elaborate dinner, treat him to a massage (because I don't give one often), and lots of "I love yous", hugs and kisses throughout the day (I know that sounds corny). He also LOVES IT when I ravish him in bed - I treat him like a god.

A man may not readily say he wants to be romanced, but just because he hasn't said anything doesn't mean you shouldn't try. When I first met my husband, it was a few months before Valentine's Day, so we weren't yet declaring our love to one another, although we enjoyed each other's company very much. I wanted him to know that he was becoming special to me, so I bought an antique-look baking tin with cover, baked him a batch of brownies and got a few balloons, and presented the "thought" to him on Valentine's Day when he came over. I'd prepared everything that morning. He really liked it and indeed felt very special. I still do this for him, but not only for Valentine's Day...this time, proclaiming my love!

sometime i think they like to be romanced, but you cant be sure because they want to be known as the head of the family so they dont want to trited like women/girl.
I used to do many things to my fiance but sometimes he used to told me that am not like you, even if the thing you try to do for me wont make me be impressed like you. But not all men are the same other they like flower,card and so on.

I'm a man and a romantic. I'd love flowers and candy.
I love it when my wife romances me and I love to romance her.
We both lost our first spouses. Life and love are fragile things.
Don't take them lightly. Cherish every minute you have
and give all the love you have in your heart.
Mike

Well for me & my husband,"we consider everyday as a valentine's day"so when V-day comes,we are more romantic to each other...the hugs,the kisses and all sort of gestures to express our love for each other which grows more and more as years passed....gifts are second priority to the celebration what is important is the expression of love which is coming from the heart.....I love you dad...would do....

Being a man, I like to be surprised and we like to be pampered a little. Flowers are ok, gifts are great, but I have to admit that intimacy ranks a far and above #1. Even if it is emails, text message, or a phone call that starts my curiousity and imagination. Even a coupon book for later activities is a great idea!

Lets be honest...Most men I know dislike Valentines Day because we go out of way to get some kind of gift in return. So ladies remember if you have a man that romances you...don't ruin it for later, make sure he knows he is appreciated also!

I think the kind of romance that almost all men appreciate more than most other things is physical intimacy with little suprises thrown in that show you have thought about your mate and about what pleases them, ahead of time. I won't go into detail, but if you think about the things your man has liked in the past, you can extrapolate from there with some great V-Day (or everyday) surprises!

My husband & I generally stay in for Valentine's Day. Restaurants are crowded & there is nothing more unnerving than an impatient server at a restaurant wanting you to leave, so the next couple can be seated. There is nothing romantic about sitting in a crowded restaurant with tons of people and massive noise. We traditionally eat pizza, which I am making this year, pop open a bottle of champagne, & watch a movie in the privacy of our home. I am also making some decadent chocolate dessert we can share this year. We are off limits on Valentine's Day. It's "our" time together.

I'm doing a themed V-day gift for my guy. He has an interest in astronomy, so I got a stargazer from Red Envelope, an intermediate book on astronomy and another star gazing device. I tossed in several bags of his favorite candies and bought a couple of cards. I wish I'd thought of it earlier, because I could have had a star named after him (or us.) I'll see what he thinks of this gift and might do the star naming for our anniversary.

I had to laugh when I saw this topic - because, as the dread V-day quickly approaches, my boyfriend keeps telling me how AGAINST the holiday he is. However, in the past I have all sorts of responses from Valentine's gifts - one fella received flowers from me and said they were the FIRST he had ever gotten and that he really appreciated it. The adorned the top of his T.V. until they drooped, rotted and the water evaporated. Overall, I think listening is always best - pick up those things that the men around you say they wish they had or could do. Like those coveted Blazers tickets!

For his b-day, I'm getting him tickets to see the Cavaliers play the Hawks. We're piston fans, but really like LeBron!! Anyway, this is the 2nd time I've gotten him basketball tickets in a few years. Do you think it could get boring? I'm not really creative with gifts for him.

My concern, is that he outdoes me in this category, hands down...This VDay we're going somewhere special...I'm REALLY excited!! But...I'm still looking for [and RACKING MY BRAIN] for ideas of super thoughtful super sweet ideas to get him back for what he's done for me. =)

Oh, I forgot to mention that there was a note on the package that said I was "the best girl in the WHOLE world." *swoon*

Another thing he did was INSIST one night that I make his bed. I was like, No! "Pleeeeeease?" Come on man, what am I? Your MAID?! "Pleeeeeeeeease??" Oh my GOSH, FINE! I'll make your stinkin...uhhh...wait...what is this???... He bought me the DVD Heime by Sigur Ros [if you don't know it, it's award winning]...I never asked for it, hinted at it...I didn't even know he knew I liked Sigur Ros!! And it was for NO reason!! The DVD is so touching to me that it still brings me to tears months later!

Those ARE great ideas!! I have a techie who doesn't like sports and doesn't drink! He tends to buy himself whatever he wants and needs...So when sometime comes up and I want to do something nice for him...I'm afraid of being too cliche...or repeating something too much...

One time, I had a rough day at work...And I know sometimes guys need a hint...So, I was like, I could really use a flower today...I actually didn't KNOW if he would do it...I was just throwing it out there...When I saw him right after work, I knew that I probably, most likely, didn't get the flower I asked for, which was fine...But then, He showed me a flower he had MADE OUT OF PAPER, colored and everything...He even spritzed it with his cologne!!! Now THAT...was AWESOME. *giggle*

Dan those are GREAT ideas!

Of course we love to be romanced! It's a human thing...not a gender issue. My lovely girl often romances me and buys me flowers and I do the same for her. Each time she does something like taking me out to dinner, or buying me something nice, I feel enamored. It makes me think creatively about what I can do for her next time. Even now, I think I'll stop and get some flowers on the way home. Well done, OP.

Ladies, what kind of gifts do you like? I'd say you like gifts that speak to your personality. I suggest you do the same for your man. DON'T give him a tool set as a hint to fix things around the house. Get him a tool set because he tinkers or a nice pen if he's a writer. Expensive beer or wine is a special treat too! Sporting event tickets? Take his car and get it cleaned and polished? A digital pocket camera with some teasing photos of you already on it? I could go on and on...be creative.

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I feel best when I'm being taken care of. Getting a massage, having dinner made for me, pouring me some good wine. I wouldn't want this every day because I'd feel too guilty about being fawned over, but every once in a while it just makes you feel like you're in heaven... *sigh*

The best I have ever had was by an old girl friend, who made the card herself, like a dollie, made a trail of red rose pedals and hershey's chocolate kisses leading from the front door to the bedroom, when I opened the card, whish was laying on a pillow in a bed of rose pedals, it just said "I kiss the ground you walk on". It was so darling.

I don't think flowers would be a bad thing. If my girlfriend would give me some flowers, I'd take them. I would take them in the same way as if I would give her some, so I think it would be cool.

What about flowers guys??

I am a man, and to tell you the truth, it's actually kinda nice to get romanced every now and then. It shows that she cares about me just as I do her :)

Romanced, no. Appreciated, yes. But I'm lucky -- I get that every day of the year, from her. We don't celebrate V Day . We celebrate life together. 24 years, and counting.