My inspiration for this article comes from my own journey to understand men better and just maybe in the process gain some sanity for myself and all womenkind.
So after my last break up I decided enough is enough. I was determined to find a happier and peaceful way of dating, a.k.a. understand the opposite sex better and maybe what we women are doing so wrong. Yes, I said it, “Wrong.” Think about it, ladies, it is possible. So below are a few things I’ve learned from reading and even talking to a bunch of men.
- Insecurity is not sexy. Clinging to your man in hopes it will make your insecurity fade, WON’T. Men like confidence, someone who is not looking to be completed but be with someone who wants to share their fullness.
- Also, jealousy is a not so sexy trait; it is completely natural and in a male’s nature to look or admire a beautiful woman. They are creatures of the eyes and beauty. It is okay to let them know you see though, say something like “in your dreams” or “you wish” in a joking manner, then let it go. It shows you notice but are not threatened; your man will appreciate the confidence.
- When dating a guy, we can be falling completely for them, and even fast, but that doesn’t mean we should spill the beans and start confessing our undying love for them. Hold back a little and let them come to in their own time. Whether we want to admit it or not, we are dating them on their timetable. You can’t force anything; most guys are not afraid of commitment with you but the ideas of commitment so don’t take it personal. A lot of them see it as their entire life will have to change if they decide to commitment/be exclusive, so back off; let them see it doesn’t have to be that way.
- Men can tend to drift away but, in most cases, if they are really into you they will return, just give them time.
- If you go out on a date and it goes great, don’t pick up the phone the very next day and start calling; it takes the fun out it for them. Men like to be the pursuer; they enjoy the chase. But by all means when they do call, throw them a compliment to show encouragement.
- However, if they don’t call, it might also be a sign that it was a nice date but maybe that is all. But keep in mind if you spent the whole date talking about yourself and left no room for him, guys like to feel interesting and complimented, too.
- Oh, and don’t always agree with everything your guys says; he chooses to date you and not some blow up doll. Have a mind and speak your opinions, men don’t like having to come up with all the answers. “Oh whatever you want, honey” is not an okay answer to everything.
- Also make sure even if you have the urge to spend every waking moment with him, DON’T, have a life of your own. Go out with your own friends, don’t be fully dependent on him for your happiness. Asking someone to provide such a thing is unreasonable and, trust me, they don’t want the pressure. Having your own life shows confidence and that he, too, is allowed to have his own life without having to fight you on it.
I hope all of you have enjoyed this article as much as I have enjoyed writing it. As I continue my study to better understand the opposite sex I will make sure to drop a line to all my fellow readers. Until then, have a great one!
