If you’re trying to get lifelong commitment and marriage from being a “girlfriend”—that’s just not going to happen.
The Key Is Exclusivity and Being Nice …To Yourself
The first key to getting the commitment you want is to not be exclusive. Simply put, you don’t become exclusive until you have the commitment you want. Until you have that ring on your finger, you’re still flirting with and dating other men. You want to be a wife, not a girlfriend—and that’s exactly what you tell him.
A man may argue with you about that. He will insist that being an exclusive boyfriend-girlfriend is a necessary step toward marriage. Find out why this is misleading. He may tell you that he needs a long time to figure out whether or not you’re “the one.” This is just plain ridiculous and not true. The truth is that only the single, unmarried men argue this point. Married or divorced men know differently and will tell you the truth. A man can very quickly decide whether or not you’re the woman he wants to spend forever with, and it doesn’t take five or ten years for him to figure that out.
The other key to bringing a man close is to not try to convince him that you’re “commitment material” by being extra nice and loyal to him, but by being nice and loving with yourself—especially in his presence or when he’s acting unsure of the relationship. This means holding firm to your personal dreams and your desire for a committed relationship—no matter what he’s doing. Nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman who follows her heart and is strong on the inside and yet vulnerable on the outside. You tell him how you feel, but you don’t convince or manage him.
So take a look at what’s going on in your relationship and see it for what it really is. Don’t assume that he’s thinking “commitment” just because a series of milestones have occurred. Keep yourself steady, focus on yourself, and he’ll naturally want to lead you to where you want to go.
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