“You cannot complain about something you are not willing to do something about.”—Fabienne Fredrickson, Client Attraction Mentor
I heard Fabienne say this when I attended her workshop recently and I immediately related it to attracting the love of your life. How often do you complain about being single and not being able to find the one for you? What are you doing about it? If you decide it is not worth it to work on yourself and what you are doing to attract your life partner to you and you keep complaining about it, what does that say about you?
I love this “No Excuses” approach. It may seem a bit much, but what if you eliminated excuses and complaints from your life and decided to do whatever it takes to find, attract, and keep the love of your life? Of course, you want to make sure what you do is moral, legal, and ethical.
Imagine that you have decided to banish excuses and complaints from your dating life. Look at your life from this perspective and ask yourself these questions:
- What am I doing differently now that I have let go of the excuses and complaints?
- How do I see myself differently?
- What thoughts and beliefs have I let go of?
- What am I thinking now that is different?
- How do I feel now that I have stopped complaining about not having a life partner yet?
- What is my new plan of action?
Take some time to go through these questions in detail and decide what is different with this new mindset. I do not expect that you will immediately start acting differently. You have been programmed to act in a certain way for many years. Yet, this is a start in a positive direction and you can see changes rather quickly.
William Glasser, MD, creator of Choice Theory, maintains that the action must come first. Choose a new behavior. If you wait until you feel like it, you remain stuck. Instead, act first, think differently, and feel better as a result.
Are you ready to take this challenge? Do it for one day. One day of no excuses or complaints about your love life. Then go for day two. If you want support for this new action in your life, relationship coaching can help you create your plan of action and get to the bottom of those stuck beliefs and thought patterns.
