You’ve read the numerous statistics, right? The ones about single women outnumbering men, married women, and all stray cats and dogs on the planet. If you let the media (or your family) throw your intentions to find a life partner under the bus, you will be miserable. That, I can guarantee.
What most statisticians fail to realize is that there are some women out there who are happy being single. HAPPY. HAPPY. Over the moon happy to be single. Why not write up some snazzy stats on them?
However, there are still many who want a guy. And not just any ol’ guy either. They want a nice, kind, tall, gentle yet strong, career-driven, honest, caring, successful, spiritual, fit, emotionally opened man. There is nothing wrong with wanting this. There are lots of variations on this list, and I truly believe we can have it. But, before we can have it ...we need to do a bit of a reality check.
Here are my four best tips on how to find love now:
1. Stop Complaining. No one likes a complainer, especially men. If every other sentence coming out of your mouth is something negative, check yourself, sweetheart. You can catch more flies with honey ... and more men too. So, try to be a bit more positive about life. Smile and have an attitude of gratefulness to be exactly where you are now.
2. Examine Your Perfect Man Checklist. All women have a list. All men have a list. Whether it’s written down or logged into our cranium doesn’t matter. The fact is, we have a list of what we think we want in a potential partner. However, much of it is superficial. We base our list on salary, clothing, social status, and how many of your girlfriends envy you because you have this hot catch.
Newsflash: if you can’t name ten character traits (words that describe a person’s personality) you desire, then you need to examine your list, honey. It could be way too superficial.
3. Check the Mirror. We all want this idealized image of Brad Pitt, Will Smith, Dwayne Johnson (my fave!), or some other hot looking male celebrity. Not to say that you aren’t capable of getting some hottie potattie, but you need to make sure you match their swagger. And not just in confidence, in looks as well. Yes, I said it. If you’re rolling around with teeth that leave impressions in your cheek, hair that hasn’t seen a stylist in years, and body hair that mimics a poodle, you don’t have a shot to score a celebrity.
But what about a nice guy average guy? If he’s into female humanistic poodles, you may find your match. However, those men are probably few and far between.
To enhance your success, evaluate your outer appearance and become the best you you can possibly be. The best you is all it takes to attract the man of your dreams. Seriously. But you’ve gotta be attractive (i.e., your best you) in order to attract.
4. Go out. You’ve gotta put yourself out there where there are loads and loads of prospective men. I’m actually shocked by how many women fail to do this. The one place that creates more long term relationships than any other method and yet, so many women are not doing it. It’s surprising! What is this method? I explain it all here.
My mantra with dating is: Go where the men are. If they’re at golf courses, you need to be there. Take up some new hobbies and be where the men are greater than the women. And once there, don’t just stand there ... actually speak to them! Be approachable!
After all, what have you got to lose except your singleness??
