As bright, sophisticated women, mental stimulation is just as important as physical in our relationships. And geeks can give us both. We want to be challenged in our dinner date discussions about foreign policy, and understood when we explain just why the phenomenon of Pi deserves its own national day over dessert.
Even in times when we don’t know it all, who better to call to check out our hard drives after a computer glitch? How good is it to have a boyfriend who can fix your dinner and your iPhone on a Friday night?
Defense #4: Geeks Know Who They Are and How to Rock It
Napoleon Dynamite wasn’t an instant cult classic for nothing. Not only are we instinctively drawn to the underdog, but anyone who couldn’t fall in love after that Jamiroquai dance sequence clearly has a heart of tin. Napoleon is the perfect example of why geeks should rule the rocky waters of our hearts. Unclouded by pep rallies and popularity, he knew exactly who he was and stayed true to it, as he famously advised Pedro about his campaign speech, “Just follow your heart, that’s what I do.” In the end, it always pays to be with someone who knows and appreciates who they are, so that they, in turn, can love and appreciate you.
Everyone has her own tastes when it comes to her significant other, but I’m going to argue that when it comes to blaming instinct, we’ve got it all wrong. It’s not the bad boy that we naturally pine for, root for, or even search for. It’s the one most like us, who snorts when he laughs or wears his pants just a little too high and to the left. Because really, how many of us are inherently the jock or the prom queen at the end of the day? Isn’t there a little nerdiness in all of us?
