I recently went on a few dates with a guy whom I’d met at a party.
Everything about him looked good on paper: he’s my age, cute, professional, and responsible, no kids, a dog owner, legally divorced. He came with good credentials—it turns out that he’s a friend of a friend—and he’s a good communicator (at least by texting).
Although the chemistry wasn’t instant, our conversations seemed easy enough.
So, here’s my question:
This guy just bought a home, which he has been renovating like crazy. He called to let me know that he’s having a going away dinner party at his condo before he officially moves out.
I was touched that he’d invited me. But a few days later, he left a message saying that he’d like to chat with me about the party.
I called him back, and he explained that he wanted me to know who would be coming to the party.
To preface, he explained that he once invited a date to a party and his ex-wife was there too. He went onto to say that his date hadn’t been too pleased about spontaneously meeting his ex-wife.
Anyway, he told me that this will be a small, intimate dinner party of eight, with the following guests:
1. His ex-wife (they got divorced two years ago, and have remained close friends)
2. Two women whom he briefly dated in the past year
3. A couple of neighbors
4. A couple of guy friends
5. And me
“Fun!” I said, flippantly. “Your exes and I can all sit around telling stories about you!”
He didn’t laugh.
Honestly, I have no issue with a man who remains friends with his exes.
As long as his boundaries are clear, remaining friends with one’s exes can be gratifying. Anyway, you can do the math: half of the women at this party have been intimately connected to him at some point.
I’d love to know: Have you ever dated a man who remains friends with so many exes?
Or, maybe you’re the one who has remained close to your exes?
Originally published on SingleMomSeeking
