Below is a rant I made online after a frustrating dating spell. I received over 100 responses which was overwhelming to say the least. Many commented on the writing so I thought it was worth sharing. I hope to follow-up with the interesting responses.
I am forty-six-year-old, professional white female. I have been single about two years. Having been in relationships since my thirties, I actually thought I would enjoy the “dating scene,” but so far ... not so much.
Here is a summary of some of my latest dating encounters:
“C” and I hit it off immediately. We cooked dinners together, had great chats about current events, and listened to old eighties rock and knew all the words; we had just an all around fun time! Nice as it all was he couldn’t maintain his enthusiasm in bed and sexual compatibility is very important! I was patient and helpful but we couldn’t resolve the problem. Turns out he wants another man to join us. Now how am I gonna compete with that! Nope, not in my bed but thanks for playing.
Then I dated “L”—a nice guy from South America, very sexy and very Latin. Some of the best make-out sessions ever! But at fifty years old he didn’t have a savings account! Said he would worry about it after 2012! Really? Really??
Now I’m not looking for a guy with money; I’ve got my own; don’t need support or assistance. Just want a responsible guy who has hopes, dreams, plans, etc.
Then there’s “M”—lots of fun, laughs, good wine, and food. A kind and considerate guy. Good chemistry and lots of “heat.” But at forty-five years old he lives with his mother! (Not take care of ailing mom kinda thing.)
So I thought, okay maybe this could just be a fun distraction ... no hopes or expectations ... just some good adult fun. Until he asked to borrow money from me. REALLY? WTF?
So what’s the point of this rambling? I don’t know; maybe just to vent; maybe to read my own words; and maybe to hear what you guys think?
Am I expecting too much that a forty-five year old+ guy would have his sh*t together, not live with his mother and be able to keep up?
C’mon Guys, I really want some insight!
Stay tuned for the responses ... boy, this was entertaining and enlightening!
