Dear Readers,
Hello. Lilth Vaan here. It’s been a full month since I’ve done anything, and if you commented on my first journal and I haven’t replied, I’m sorry.
This is for the girls who like a guy and want to be with him. My second topic is how to get the guy you like to you back.
Currently, I’m involved in a situation like this and thought that I should spread the advice I got from the Internet and my loved ones. Obviously, I copied these instructions since this is what I got.
1: Be yourself. One of the worst mistakes all of us tend to make in situations like this is to pretend to be someone we are not. Remember—no one can be you better than you can. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Wear what feels and looks good on you. Talk the way you want to talk. This will give you confidence, which is always attractive.
2: Do not try too hard. People who come on strong seem desperate, and that is a big turn off. A woman who throws herself at a man may get his attention temporarily, but it won’t last. Remember, men have a very primal instinct. They do enjoy the chase. Even the ones who seem timid and insecure still would prefer the opportunity to pursue and capture the girl.
3: Smile and look him in the eye. Be sure it is a real smile, not a deliberate flirtatious action that can be very transparent. If you really do like him, a natural twinkle in your eye will come through, and he will feel that. Stay away from the tossing of the hair and the sexy walks. Men are onto that.
4: Try to get close to him in some way. Whether it’s a party, or at the office, or some other social situation, it is important to find the time to just have a conversation. When you get to this point, be sure to ask questions about him, and be a good listener. People in general like to talk about themselves. Just be sure to avoid getting too personal in these initial conversations. Your goal is to let him talk, so you can make him comfortable, and find out a little more about him.
And, lastly, 5: Learn to casually mimic his body language. Experts in all types of relationships, business and personal, say this is a very big key when it comes to communication. It opens the door. If he is sitting with his hands folded facing you, then you do the same. When he takes a sip of his drink, maybe take a sip of yours. You don’t want to look like a puppet. But if you do this in a relaxed way, he is much more likely to feel comfortable opening up to you. It is simple psychology that works in many different situations. If you watch couples that are really in love with each other, you will see that they naturally do this without even thinking.
Personally, I like 1–3. I got some help from this, but I had already told him that I liked him. So I screwed up big-time on that. Heh, well, I hope this helps you girls get the guy you like and your relationship lasts long!
Sincerely,
Yours Truly,
Lilth Vaan
