Love, what a horrible thing it can be. It makes you so susceptible to weakness you never knew you had or wanted. One minute you’re minding your own business the next minute you’re … just, well mindless. You open yourself up and put your heart on display and hope for the best. You hope the one that you allow inside doesn’t make a mess of what you have worked so hard to put in order. You build you walls, your impregnable fortress, so that you can’t be hurt. Then it happens, and before you know it a Trojan horse has gotten through, some one has wanders into your life and you gave them a piece of your being. They didn’t ask of it, but you gave it and gave it willingly. That brief eye contact, which accompanied the smile and that stupid, stupid kiss. Now all that control, confidence is gone, your life is shaken up, you have been taken hostage in your own home. You invited the vampire in and were surprised when it decided to feed. The virus eats at you leaving you shattered a lone in the darkness. You never saw it coming, “May be we should just be friends.” A comment with the strength of a sword slowly pushing its way into your heart that hurts you far beyond anything you imagined anything could. It shake the very core of who you where right down to your soul, you are fractured.
So where did we go wrong how did we get our signal crossed? Often it is through misinterpreting each other, it can cause us to sabotage our un-established relationship and do it unknowingly. It’s not enough to be authentic in sharing yourself but you need to consider how we perceive one another. There are hidden factor that sometimes we don’t consider like how we ended the last relationship. Weather your heart is closed or open and able to attract and even fall in love with the right person, key word right. Knowing when to bail or stay is crucial and knowing that just be because you love someone is not the end all be all. They have to be right for you physical chemistry maybe the staring block but it is also short lived.
For men this is no truer, a man can easily be turned on by a seductive woman who promises sex with out strings. The danger is that for most men that opportunity creates a false sense of chemistry. Women don’t understand that physical attraction is the lowest form of attraction for men. Just because he is attracted to a woman doesn’t mean that he wants a relationship with her but the jacked up thing is he will pursue like he wants one. All for what to see more and to touch more; quite often this translates to sexual chemistry. This alone makes him think he knows her, he likes her, Hell, it may make him think he loves her. Just like a man takes it for granted that a woman who flirts with him wants to kiss him, when really nine out of ten times she only want him to want to kiss her. But if physical aspect is not backed up with a deeper connection like the mind, heart and soul then it cannot and will not last or grow, thus the dissolving of attraction.
