I’ve watched plenty of people walk down the aisle—good friends, classmates, cousins, coworkers, and acquaintances. I’ve been to weddings in casinos, and weddings in churches. I’ve seen weddings in Vegas and weddings in wine country. All were lovely ceremonies, but not all were happy marriages. Although most of those couples are still comfortably wed, there are, of course, a few that have already called it quits.
As a newly-engaged person myself, it’s hard not to look back and think about which couples got it right and which couples got it wrong. Most people in the United States get married at some point in their lives, but statistics show that about 50 percent of those marriages end in divorce. Among my friends and relatives, the ten-year success rate so far is about 90 percent—pretty darn good—but is there any way to predict which marriages will be successful? A survey by the National Fatherhood Institute found that aside from issues like arguing and infidelity, one of the most common reasons couples gave for divorcing was that they married too young. How young is too young? Is it possible to be “too old” for marriage? What’s the ideal age to take the plunge?
Age and Old Wisdom
It’s true that half of all marriages fail, but that statistic can be misleading. Just because 50 percent of couples get divorced doesn’t mean that every marriage has only a 50/50 chance. The fact is, some marriages have a 90 percent chance of success, and some marriages only have a 10 percent chance of working out. Beyond the issues of religion, profession, or compatibility, one of the greatest predictors of marital success or failure is the age at which people marry.
Marriages that happen before the age of twenty are two to three times more likely to fail, researchers say, a finding established by countless studies. People who marry when they’re slightly older tend to be more stable and happy, and they have a smaller chance of divorce. Most experts place the ideal age of first marriage somewhere between twenty-three and twenty-seven. Jeffrey S. Larson, author of the book, Should We Stay Together?, believes that the late twenties are the ideal time for marriage, and that the older, the better.
