7. I’ll try anything once.
Because unless you really, really, really mean it, don’t get his hopes up.
8. Are you sure you’re okay?
Sometimes we’re thrown off guard when our guy is uncharacteristically quiet. We’ll prod and probe, hoping to get to the bottom of his issue (and too often, we’re absolutely sure it’s something we’ve done), when in reality, there may not be a concrete reason at all.
Men have bad days, too—they can be moody, tired, or just generally not feel like talking. They’re only human! As hard as it can be, don’t read into it too much. Give him his space and keep yourself busy until he snaps out of it. Ask him what’s bothering him over and over again and the only honest answer will be “you.”
9. I hate my thighs.
If he didn’t find you attractive, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. Period, end of story. Putting yourself down in front of him makes you look insecure, and just in case you didn’t know, men really hate that (see #6). Just like women, they’re usually attracted to self-confidence and put off by its opposite.
Think about it. Would you want to be with a man who constantly talked about how much he hated his calves or how he felt like a failure in his career? Uh, no way.
In addition, you’ll draw attention to flaws that he probably never even noticed before. No one else looks as closely at your body as you do. In all likelihood, you are your own worst critic. Don’t recruit him.
10. I hate your mom.
Likewise for his friends, his siblings, his dad … even his dog. If he really loves someone or something, don’t hate on them. You may not get along perfectly with everyone in his life, but try your hardest to be diplomatic in your relationships with people he really cares about. Be open-minded about what he sees in them (things that may not be immediately obvious to you).
Maybe Deadbeat Dave is his oldest friend—the person he survived middle school with, the only person who stood by him when he lost his job a couple years back. Maybe despite his lack of attention to hygiene, he’s got a heart of gold.
