9. Fully Express Emotions
If you feel like crying, do it, and do it fully. This will release the emotional clutter in your inner space.
10. Multiple Meetings
It really takes several days before news can sink in. Don’t expect to meet once and be done with it. It is your responsibility to be there for that person, at least initially during a breakup situation.
11. Be Available
Do whatever is necessary to help them heal without compromising your values. Be available for them when they need you.
12. Space
Give them space. They will be hurt no matter what, so even if they appear fine on the outside, they are hurting. What they need now is time. Check up on them a few times in the beginning to make sure they are okay and to let them know that they matter. Remind them that you are here if they need your help to heal.
13. Relinquish Guilt
You may experience guilt, since you are the one initiating the breakup. You see that you’ve caused pain and this may affect your state of being. The following are some ideas that help to let go of this feeling:
- Meditation
- Deep breathing
- Alone time
- Exercise to release energy
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