I went to a seminar the other day and they mentioned “how money is the cause of most divorces.” How many times have you heard this? The thing is, I don’t believe it. Think about this for a moment.
Money is energy, just like everything else in this world. It is a piece of paper with ink on it. It doesn’t breathe, eat, walk, talk, or even use the bathroom. It did breathe at one time, and ate and drank from all the natural resources of this earth when it was a tree. But, we cut it down and made it into paper.
This small piece of paper that is the size of our hand has so much power over us that we allow it to come between us and the people we love. Then we blame it for our problems. We give it all our power to run our lives. That is a big job for money. I am glad I am not money.
I don’t know about you, but this sounds strange to me. I believe that the real reason that most divorces happen is due to the fact that we don’t know how to communicate with each other about money. We don’t know how to talk about money to our spouses and loved ones. It is like a secret behind close doors to talk about money. We are afraid to share that we spent more then we should have to our spouses. We are afraid to share our true feelings about money.
But then again, if you go deeper—is it really money we are afraid to speak about, or is it more about what we are truly feeling? We get these feelings inside of us that we don’t know how to speak about, and then we go out and spend money. We go and buy bigger houses, new cars, more clothes, and toys, toys, toys. ( I love toys. I am kid still.) Then the next thing we know, we are upset about money and afraid to speak about it.
No, I don’t think it is money that is the cause of most divorces. It is only in the middle of our fears.
I feel that if we would learn to communicate with each other and stop giving all our power away to money, then just maybe money won’t be the victim of our lives. Just maybe we can have better relationships with each other. Today, try to see where you can communicate more with the ones you love and give money a break. It needs a vacation.
