Lately I have been doing readings for people with multiple marriage lines. One woman had seven! This horrified someone in the crowd listening to the reading and started a volatile conversation about relationships, which mothered this blog posting.
We are about to enter an astrological phase that signifies the end of relationships as we know them and will bring about a new definition of the term more in keeping with the world we live in today. This astrological shift is the coming of age for the sixties movement that ushered in free love in a much bigger way. Over the forty plus years the concept of less tradition and more freedom has spread globally although triggering violent response in the archconservative, mostly religious, communities.
But what does that have to do with all the multiple marriage lines? What we have right now through October of 2012 is a chance to consciously create a new relationship paradigm. Reading so many hands and talking with so many people convinces me that the big shift is upon us. People are struggling with the bad fit of old ideas about what it means to be committed. A real sense of themselves and all the choices available throughout the globe are constant reminders that traditional views of relationships are narrow, confining and while they offer a sense of history and tradition, they feel too small!
We are in the period where old rules don’t feel right and new rules have yet to emerge with any real clarity. People feel lost and overwhelmed, so they try on different relationships as a way of getting a better understanding of what does and doesn’t work. Their conversations with me are about judging themselves or judging the person that failed to live up to expectations. The very discontent and sense of failure mounting up around relationships sound to me like the equivalent of a starter pistol on a whole new race, so to speak.
After all, viewing ourselves in a stranger’s eyes is one way to gain bigger perspective. We see our best selves reflected in a new someone’s view of us. Their admiration for our good sense or delight in our humor are reminders of what we like best about ourselves. With a world of possibilities available to us now, so much more than our grandparents, we shift and change far more than ever before in history. So seeing ourselves through multiple partners’ eyes is one way to get a kaleidoscope picture of an ever-expanding truth. When we “re-view” what we are doing in relationships today as helping give birth to a whole new paradigm perhaps we can let go of the judgments so many heap on themselves for what they term their failure to find the right fit. After all who defines right fit?
People have begun to understand their own wants and needs first and take responsibility for meeting them. This is the reason some feel more balanced when they are single than in relationship. They have been practicing self-sufficiency before moving into partnership. Then they move cautiously into the arena of co-creation rather than traditional roles and rules. But this is relatively uncharted territory for the masses and people keep looking for the blueprint to guide them and judge the outcomes prematurely!
What works for YOU? Yes there is always the masculine and the feminine roles and energy. But how those roles play out, for how long and where we are conscious of our expression is a new choice rather than holding each other hostage to outdated expectations. An expectation is just a premeditated resentment whereas an intention is deliberate creation. So you are the change leaders ushering in a new way of transforming two into one. Give yourself permission to feel everything, then decide what is the right action to take about it. Let a few days percolate through and see if the feeling holds while you let it tell you more about who you are in the partnership and how it fits.
