Cinderella Is Dead

As all of you know by now, I am an author of books about astrology. I do a lot of chart readings and consultations for my readers. I have mostly positive results.

It is gratifying to hear how people make progress after they find out they have Jupiter exactly where is should be for the enterprise they wish to pursue; or that they should not dump their lover over a detail, because they are basically compatible. Charts are maps of a person’s character. Their strengths and weaknesses are vividly portrayed. They give us definite guidelines for advising others.

Something crucial has been on my mind lately. I say “crucial” because it has to do with overall personal happiness and how certain people sometimes misconceive that state of being. 

The “certain people” in question today are women over thirty who are “looking for a man to settle down with.”

Every other day I get an email from a woman from somewhere on this planet who feels her life is a mess or stultifying or useless or vapid and empty because she doesn’t have a man in it. “I feel useless and unworthy without a man.” They tell me.

Most often it’s not a man that is lacking to these women, but a full thriving, throbbing LIFE. Sovereignty. Belief in self. Confidence that she can “make it on her own.”

Today’s women are too often unhappy and dissatisfied with their own adult lives. Once they have passed through their Saturn Return (ages twenty-eight to thirty) many begin to think about the future. And for some reason at about age thirty-two, up pops the Cinderella legend again to instruct their sub conscious minds to start looking for the man of their dreams—a prince charming person. They long to find a male partner who will salve their wounds, make children with them, support them financially and, in short, build them a life.

What is difficult for them to come to terms with is the fact that before a suitable male will be interested in teaming up with them to share a life forever and ever, they must first build their own lives. Men today are less and less interested in taking charge of someone else’s existence. They have problems of their own and are surprisingly lucid about them. But too many women don’t feel quite the same. That nagging Cinderella story keeps them fervently on the lookout for Mr. Right to arrive with the proverbial glass slipper and take charge of their lives.

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11.15.2009
Cas
Even more reason for a woman to have her own life together before seeking a mate! The call to reproduce is strong, but the call to responsible parenting should be stronger. Suzanne's point, IMO, is that a woman should focus on living a happy, fruitful life on her own before seeking a partner to share it with and make a family together. I believe she is addressing the women who are seeking fulfillment from someone outside of themselves in order to fill a void. It is only when you are a whole person that you can be a successful half of a loving, healthy relationship - and a good parent!
11.14.2009
grace
Suzanne, thank you for this. Wise words from a wise woman - and excellent astrologer! I appreciated so much our meeting and the interpretation of my chart that you did so many years ago! One thing that strikes me, though, is that these are wise words from a woman who has already been married and had her children, as do I. I think one thing we are not conscious of is Mother Nature's extremely strong call to reproduce and this is manifested in looking for Mr. Right. We cannot pooh-pooh just how hormone driven is the human race, and in women this means finding a man to impregnate her. Strong-sounding words, I know, but in our over-intellectual society we often forget this, or are unaware of it!
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