By Danielle Devorah of GalTime.com for Cupid's Pulse
When it comes to looks, women are typically more forgiving than men. I tend to believe that the first thing that attracts a man to a woman is her looks. On the other hand, a woman wants a man who comes off as intelligent, powerful, and strong. That does not necessarily equate to “good looking”. I remember dating a guy several years ago who was a very well known male model. On a scale of one to ten this guy was an eleven, for sure! He was tall, had a chiseled facial structure, strong arms. I remember taking him to parties with me and even my male friends said, “Wow, he’s a good looking dude”. But, he was, well, dumb as a rock. After a couple dates and many ridiculous conversations with him, I dumped him. I no longer saw how gorgeous he was and just imagined him as an immature fifteen-year-old boy. Years later, he actually married a very famous actress and ironically she’s very smart. I guess she didn’t need someone on her level and enjoyed the arm candy.
As for me, I began gravitating to more intelligent guys that had charisma. I actually found their minds to be sexy over their appearance. One guy I dated was an inch shorter and even bald (but I’m 6′ 2″ with heels so I need to be fair). I cried over this one and totally fell for his personality. Bottom line: you don’t need to look like a movie star or male model to land a quality girl. In fact, most of the men I was crazy about were not so great looking at all. But they were always in shape and well put together, and most importantly—confident.
I look at a couple of things when I meet a guy for the first time. Does he appear confident, what does his posture say, how is he dressed, does he have too much gel in his hair, is he overweight? If his shirt is open, I don’t want to see chest hair! I also notice his watch and shoes, believe it or not. And trust me I’m not the only woman who pays attention to that stuff.
I know all of these things can come across as shallow, but at the end of the day these small details can make a difference in whether or not the guy gets the girl to say “yes” to the first date.
