Do you know when there’s real love in your life and you’re ready for marriage? Love is not something you can take for granted. It’s a lifetime commitment and it leaves many scars if one decides to get a divorce. It’s not easy to find someone you truly love...love doesn’t come as a free gift, it is something earned over time, and you should think about it long and hard before making a commitment to a true love or a marriage. A lot of marriages don’t last because many times it’s the first time for the person being asked to get married and they automatically accept the proposal because the thrill of getting married is more important to them than sitting down, analyzing their mind, and the overall relationship. Many people are afraid if they don’t accept their first proposal, they may never get another one, and this is asking for real trouble and the marriage is off to a bad situation from the beginning.
A lot of baggage comes with a love and a marriage, i.e., personalities, backgrounds, families, friends, respecting a partner’s religious background, financial problems, having children, one or the other traveling a lot, etc., all of these can tremendously affect a marriage. Often times many people who get married find out they’re not in love with their partners and detest the thought of living with them another day, much less a life time. There must be plenty of warm love, compassion, companionship, friendship, and concern for their partner before a marriage can work. The fantasy of galloping off into the sunset dies quickly and often times becomes stale after the thrill is over. Many people wake up the day after the marriage, look into the mirror, and ask themselves, “Why did I marry him/her...I don’t believe I truly love him/her after all?” It’s too late the next morning, a commitment has been made, and one or the other is going to get hurt badly.
In a marriage there must be love, friendship, having things in common, a caring and giving relationship, trust, honesty, overall good morals, both parties desiring to have a family or not to have a family, liking the partner’s families and friends, and there must be a common denominator to bind the relationship. If it is true love, you’ll be willing to walk through hot coals for the one you love and not blink an eye. Can you do this? If you can’t... get out while you can. Each partner should be willing to put their spouse first and foremost in their lives regardless of the situation they face. One cannot travel along one pathway and the other go in an opposite direction. There should be unity in whatever you both decide. A man should put his wife first in his life and stand by her throughout their lives because she is his mate and will be the Mother of his children. A woman should support her husband in his undertakings, ensuring him she stands by his side in their decision makings. A marriage needs to have consideration and concern for their partners, regardless of health issues, hardships, and any other crisis coming into their lives.
True love is hard to find, and a decision to live the rest of a lifetime should be thought out thoroughly. When you meet a person you believe you are in love with, you should date them for a period of time, have many conversations about various subjects and topics, find our their likes and dislikes, and if they don’t with you, then you have a red flag to consider, meet family and friends, and get to understand and know the real person behind the face you think you love. Take time to review and consider each aspect of the relationship and if there are any red flags, then run. Red flags are warnings that not all is what you are looking for in a relationship.
