Non-Monogamy: In Other Words an Open Marriage (Ours That Is)

It all started a very long time ago, well eleven years ago to be exact, when we as a married couple first really started to talk openly to each other about having an open marriage. And yes, I being a man, liked looking at porn on the computer and chatting online, I never tried to hide any of it from her, but she would just peek over my shoulder every now and then and make comments as to what I was looking at and or who I was chatting with. She would make comments at first, but then I started to notice that she would get a little upset as to why and what I got out of it. It took some time for her to say what she was feeling and basically she felt like I was not interested in her any more, which was not the case at all, and that is when I sat down with her and we talked.

We spent the rest of the evening just talking, I explained to her that looking at porn meant nothing and that was the god’s honest truth. It was more of that male fantasy thing that you know will never happen. All guys have one sort or another and if any say they do not, they are lying like a dog, just like they never grabbed a hold of the monkey and spanked it. And chatting online was just a way of meeting people from many different places and just making friends and that is all it ever was. I even told her that if she wanted to chat with others online or find sites that were for woman and look at pictures and so on that it would not bother me. I knew that she was there with me and not with someone else, and that I hoped she knew that I was there with her and not with anyone else. 

Okay lets skip forward a little bit here, I do not want to make this in to a book, but over the course of time, she to had a few chat buddies, male and female and after a while she would get me involved in her chats and introduce me to the people she was chatting with as well as showing and telling me was being said. As we all know there are a lot of perverts online, yes some were very perverted, and tried to get her in to cyber sex and sending naked pictures of themselves and mainly of just that one part of a mans body part as well as asking for hers, which I might add neither of us had any way. But I must say she thought I was mad and getting upset and to her surprise I was not, I even had to convince her many times over that I was not and that I thought most of it was just funny to me to see how some of these guys really were and so hard up to get a woman.

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04.21.2008
Sadie
I liked your story, Dwight! And, like Jenny Block, I too am loving that the concept of Open Marriage is coming "out of the closet". Let's all keep writing stories about Open Marriage and bring it out even further, shall we? Take Care. Sexie Sadie ~ confessionsfrommyopenmarriage.blogspot.com/
02.28.2008
Jenny
I really enjoyed reading about your experience as my husband and I are in an open marriage as well. It can be tough. But it is also wonderful and has been worth all of the steps we had to take to get here. I appreciate you sharing your story. I think a lot more people are living this way than we know and writing like this really helps our visibility. All the best, Jenny Block Author of "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage" Seal Press, June 2008 www(dot)jennyonthepage(dot)com open-marriage(dot)blogspot(dot)com/
Well now Ivy, I must admit that I sure was not expecting the type of responce you gave, but on the same hand I must also say, I am very pleased that you did. It was a pleasure to hear of your expierence and how much you and your husband enjoyed the pleasures of sharing each other with someone else, because in all honesty that is just what you two have done as well as my wife and I. And I must say...You go Girl. And I can honestly say that I know just what you mean, I mean I really do, because I to think that I have UnLeased an Animal In my wife, as well as having learned some of her deepest desires that she would not have other wise spoken of. Even til this day she has a bit of a hard time talking to me face to face about what, how and the way she enjoyed her self, well unless we do it through e-mail. But Yes I know all to well what you mean by Unleasing an Animal. I am happy for you and wish you and your husband the best, again it was great hearing of your expierence.
11.19.2007
Ivy Martin
I'm 29 & have been married for 8 yrs. My whole non-monogamy situation started a few years back when my husband asked if I was ever with a woman or if I had any interest in being with one. I told him that I kissed a girl in high school & that I had fantasies of sexual relatiuonships with women, I was always intrigued by another woman's feminitity & sensaulity. Then he asked if I would want to try & we both had sex with a female friend. At that point it was the most sexy, daring experience either one of us had ever had, it was his first time with 2 women. We continued to speak about fantasies, we would watch porn & ask each other would you do that, or would you like to see me do that.Our marriage is wonderful, even though we married young we have still been able to explore ourselves sexually with an understanting that we only party together.Since that first time we've had other encounters, even a full swap with another couple. I still want double penetration. He unleashed an animal in me
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