It all started a very long time ago, well eleven years ago to be exact, when we as a married couple first really started to talk openly to each other about having an open marriage. And yes, I being a man, liked looking at porn on the computer and chatting online, I never tried to hide any of it from her, but she would just peek over my shoulder every now and then and make comments as to what I was looking at and or who I was chatting with. She would make comments at first, but then I started to notice that she would get a little upset as to why and what I got out of it. It took some time for her to say what she was feeling and basically she felt like I was not interested in her any more, which was not the case at all, and that is when I sat down with her and we talked.
We spent the rest of the evening just talking, I explained to her that looking at porn meant nothing and that was the god’s honest truth. It was more of that male fantasy thing that you know will never happen. All guys have one sort or another and if any say they do not, they are lying like a dog, just like they never grabbed a hold of the monkey and spanked it. And chatting online was just a way of meeting people from many different places and just making friends and that is all it ever was. I even told her that if she wanted to chat with others online or find sites that were for woman and look at pictures and so on that it would not bother me. I knew that she was there with me and not with someone else, and that I hoped she knew that I was there with her and not with anyone else.
Okay lets skip forward a little bit here, I do not want to make this in to a book, but over the course of time, she to had a few chat buddies, male and female and after a while she would get me involved in her chats and introduce me to the people she was chatting with as well as showing and telling me was being said. As we all know there are a lot of perverts online, yes some were very perverted, and tried to get her in to cyber sex and sending naked pictures of themselves and mainly of just that one part of a mans body part as well as asking for hers, which I might add neither of us had any way. But I must say she thought I was mad and getting upset and to her surprise I was not, I even had to convince her many times over that I was not and that I thought most of it was just funny to me to see how some of these guys really were and so hard up to get a woman.
But over time she learned to ignore these types and still make some friends chatting online. Then one day she called me over to the computer and showed me what was being said in the chat she was having with a guy that she had been chatting with for some time, it all seemed very respectful and like it was a very clean down to earth conversation at first that is, as she scrolled down to the point she called me over and showed me that the guy she was chatting with was asking her if I (her husband) would mind if she was to have cyber sex with him. Well at that point she looked at me said, “WHAT IS THAT!” I smiled and explained to her as quickly as I could and as best I could in the short amount of time that I was given and seeing as the chat was still in progress at the time, she was hesitant and a little nervous because she thought I would get mad or upset. When I told her to go for it if she really wanted to and that I was okay with it, I can honestly say she was shocked but she smiled and sent a message to hold on to her chat buddy and got up to get her toy, which was a just a regular dildo.
You see what she did not know is, I knew deep down in my heart for some time that there was something else that she really wanted but would not say or admit it to me completely, at least she did not want to in fear of hurting me or my feelings. But I knew from the way she talked with her coworkers and some of her girlfriends that she talked with and over the course of time between chatting online. And she too had saved a nice size collection of pictures of men, nude that is, showing all of their wonders, which did show me and let know about. A few times I would come across something I thought she would enjoy looking and would show her and she would have me save it for her. Anyway to be honest I started to wonder, did I wake a sleeping giant? Well in a manor of speaking that is, I thought to my self what did I awaken in her, because I can say with all honesty when she got in to that one cyber sex session that night, she really got in to it as I sat and watched her from the living room. And I could tell she was really enjoying her self and I must admit that it did turn me on to see her have fun and enjoy the pleasure that she was getting.
Well later that night, when we both went to bed a little earlier and we had what I would have to say was some REALLY good sex. Before going to sleep I asked her, even though I had a pretty good idea that she really enjoyed having cyber sex, I wanted to hear what she really had to say and yes I did wonder how often she was playing with her dildo, because it seemed like she never did, well not that I knew of that is. And as I thought she still felt nervous about it but she did say that she liked it and it was fun but weird at the same time, and she asked me how I knew of cyber sex and what to do and have done it before while she was at work. I explained to her that I was asked several times but never did it and the reason I knew what it was because I googled it (remember Google is your friend) when I was asked, but I never did because I did not want her to think I was doing anything behind her back and in all honesty I did not really know how to approach her with it without sounding like a pervert. Or even worse that she would think that she was not satisfying me in bed, that I needed to go and have cyber sex with some other woman, so I asked her what made her do it seeing as she did not know what it was really.
Basically her answer was, to see what it was like, but she did also say that it just is and was not like having the real thing and even though she did have some fun, it was not something that she would do all the time or any more. She said that playing with her toy was okay once in a while or when I was not around, but again it just is not the same thing as the real thing. Which I did understand was how she was feeling, because of her up-bringing and the way her father and mother raised her, it’s not that she was sheltered or anything like that but more on the lines of having protective parents as well as two brothers that were protective of her. Her parents were old school for the most part, marriage first then sex, and I could tell that she was not the type of girl to have been around the block and sleeping with all kinds of guys, her parents did keep a watchful eye on her but yet gave her space to do what she wanted as long as she did not get hurt. I guess you could say that, the son could get away with lots more than the daughter, I think you know I mean, if the son went out and got laid and had fun it was ok as long as he did not the girl pregnant, but if the daughter went out and got laid and had fun, well oh no, that just is not right she can’t do that or she was tramp.
She just was not exposed to all that kind of stuff and back when we met there were no computers in every home and the internet like it is today, so everything was all new to her as well as it was to me also, for the most part that is. Okay fast forward here a few months, one night we were both in bed and having sex and for some reason things just did not feel the same or at least I thought so, maybe it was just that she was tired or really not in the mood and just doing her wifely duties, I don’t really know. But I started asking what was on her mind, was not in to it, or was there some one else, meaning another guy? Again as I said earlier I knew deep down in my heart that there was something else that she wanted, so I asked her to be honest with me and not to worry about hurting me or my feelings. It took a while and with some coaxing for to open up to me and say what was on her mind, I even told her that I knew or at least had a very good idea but I was not completely sure and the reason why I felt that I had a good idea of what was because.
Well let me back up just a bit. I am not the kind of guy that can keep going like the energizer bunny, that keeps going and going, but on a good night I could last for say up to twenty minutes and she is the type of woman that needs a lot of stroking more often than not, she is not one to reach her climax without a fair amount of action if you know what I mean. I always had to give that her that extra effort to please her, be it with more foreplay and give her that extra bit of oral, which mind you I did not mind doing at all, in fact I love doing it, to me the more the better, besides I Aim To Please. But there have been many times where all of my efforts just did not pay off, but she never complained or made a big deal of it, in fact she said that I did please her in many ways and that she was happy with me and always was and will be. So anyway, with some coaxing and a little time, she did open up and admitted to what I thought was on her mind, well at least thinking of that is and as I thought so, it was to be with another man. Well she did not really say it word for word, but more like me asking questions and her answering yes or no and even when she did answer yes to the fact of having sex with another man, I could hear it in her voice that she was scared and worried that I would get upset and we would end up in a fight.
When she did open up and start talking about it, she admitted that she was worried that it would hurt me and that she did not want to do that and that she cared about me and so on. When she heard my answer, she was really shocked and was not expecting me to take it the way I did. Because I told her that I had a pretty good idea that is what it was and that in an odd kind of way, was a turn on to me, the thought of her having sex with another man and getting what she was really wanting, a guy that can last more than fifteen or twenty minute. What was even more of a surprise to me was the fact that she really liked it fast and hard, well not hard to the point that it was causing pain but more to the point of, (how do I put it with out to graphic here) well just leave it at fast motion. With a little bit of skin smacking, not like you see in the those outlandish porn flicks, but enough to hear a little skin smacking and what I was not expecting was, she likes it when the guys penis is bigger, meaning thicker and just a little longer and mind you I am no pee wee either, for the most part I fall in to the just above average size. But now that really took me by surprise, I guess because I was not expecting it, but anyway we talked about it more and over the course of a few months we talked about it more and she even asked me if I wanted to be with another woman.
To which my answer was, of course! But I would not do it because I did not want to be unfaithful to her, but yes, it has been a fantasy of mine. That is when she said to me that she would not do it at all if it was only her, or to put in another way, she wanted to make sure I was not left out in the cold. By this time, I was completely shocked because that I did not expect all, never in a million years, so after a few months and discussing it and making sure we understood each other and laying down some ground rules and what we would and would not do as well as always keep everything in the open, never sneak around and always being honest with each other. Together we found a swingers website after doing some research on how to go about it, we posted an ad and with in a few months we met a couple, we all talked for a few months got to know each other and got to be friends and once we were all comfortable with each other and laid down some ground rules. We did the deed so to speak, my wife with her husband and I with his wife, we were all in the same room as well in separate rooms also, we went to their home, they came to ours, I guess the best way to put it is that we as a married couple were dating another married couple. I can still honestly say that we all enjoyed the time we all spent together and yes that means even when we were just sitting around talking and just having good conversation.
Even though it only last a several months, we have never looked back with regret at all, why did it all end? Well, for one we were all getting a little to close and the other couples wife really wanted to try being with another woman for the first time and my wife did not really want to be with another woman. (Which I might add that we did try at one time and it just did not work.) I must say that, that kind of lifestyle is not easy and can get tricky and at times complicated if one is not careful and if and when feelings get involved, it just gets even more complicated if that is not what is expected and or desired. That is communication is most important with all parties involved, for some people feelings and getting close is not desired, for other it may be, either way it can be a lot of fun and very enjoyable. For my wife and me it was enjoyable, and we both had a lot of fun and I can honestly say that I am happy that my wife was able to have a fantasy of hers come true. Yes, I to am glad that I had mine as well, but, knowing, seeing, and hearing my wife get and feel the pleasure she was wanting, was something I did truly enjoy, without getting to graphic and doing a play by play blow of things and what was done. It was a turn on for me to look in to my wife’s eyes and know that she did get what she was wanting and that she was pleased because, I do enjoy pleasing her and since that brought her pleasure, I am happy.