There is SO much emphasis in society currently on the importance of a person’s size, and yet it really isn’t all that critical! Now I am not talking about how well “hung” he is, I am discussing my own experience with women, and I hope I am not overstepping my bounds here.
When I married, I married a lovely young lady, who was, and is, considered to be an attractive woman. A real “Christie Brinkley” sort. Over time I came to realize that, although she might be pretty on the outside that isn’t the aspect that makes for a truly satisfying life together! When I became disabled (with M.S.) her true colors really showed. I was relegated to a very menial lifestyle, and care and compassion went out the window.
I happened to hear from an old friend, actually an old girlfriend, with whom I had kept in touch over the thirty or so years since high school. She had heard of my marital discord, and lent a sympathetic ear. Now please don’t get this next part wrong! I am pointing this out to make a contrast! This lady is not tall, although she is the tallest woman in her family at 5′2″. She is not, shall we say, svelte? She is a big girl, and always has been, but this never stopped me from caring about her before, and doesn’t now!
What she is is incredibly sexy! We have always had a free and easy intimacy with each other, and she is, in my opinion, quite beautiful, and I have told her this repeatedly (sometimes too repeatedly for her comfort, but that is a different story)! We have great times together, walking down the street, hanging out with families and friends and in bed ... oh yes, in bed!! She knows what she likes, and is not shy about letting me know! And what a kisser! I find her curves quite sensuous and her lush figure quite a pleasure to behold and caress.
So while, to others, she might not look that impressive, I certainly am impressed! I am, quite frankly, in love. Deeply in love. This lady has so many attributes that I admire ... She is very smart, she is generally well liked and respected by her peers, she has a great sense of humor and that laugh, oh, how I love to hear her laugh!
So we are re-developing our relationship, now that it has fundamentally changed. What had been a friendship, then a romance, then a friendship is rapidly transforming back into a romantic relationship.
We are re-learning each other, and I don’t mean just physically, although that has been a truly delightful aspect of the re-learning process! What I really mean is that we each have grown over the years we were not intimately involved with each other, and we have needed to re-learn where the “boundaries” are, both in public settings as well as in the private arena. I am more in need of this re-education than she, as I have been cloistered away in the suburbs, with little contact with adults other than my wife, but she has held a very public position in the court system.
Yet my girlfriend (gad, that word feels so strange on so many levels) is a very patient lady, tolerated my impatience and my many foibles exceedingly well, and is proving to be an incredible help in re-learning how to just be.me.
Your comments are not only welcomed, but strongly encouraged. Thanks!
L.D.
