We all agree that dating is for grown ups.
When Rachel at Single Mom Seeking recently told Dr. Leah about “sneaking” a man into her home for some late-night fun, Dr. Leah wanted to know:
Why are you using the word “sneak”?
Yes, dating with kids makes things much more complicated.
But you are an adult. You do deserve to have some private, adult time. So, why do some of us keep calling it “sneaking”?
We’ve gone on the record to endorse certain steps that single parents can take to be sexy and sane:
1. Clutter is the enemy of great sex. If there’s kid clutter everywhere, there’s no room for privacy.
2. Privacy matters. Single parents should have simple locks on their bedroom doors. Some kids do sleep soundly, which can lead to a false sense of security that they will not wake up in the middle of the night.
3. Get creative. Do you have a kid-proof hiding places? You deserve to have grown-up toys—you just need to be creative about hiding them.
4. Everyone needs adult time after-hours. The rules get a bit murkier when we shift the topic to inviting someone to spend the night—when your kids are home. (Whether or not you tell your kids is another post altogether!)
Some of you have talked about having a man (or woman) spend the night when the kids are home. Others have said, “No way!” Where do you stand?
Although you might feel confident about your decision to invite a special someone over after-hours … have you caught yourself thinking of a grown up sleepover as “sneaking,” too?
Originally published on SingleMomSeeking
