Honestly, are you truly open to attract what you want?
I can’t tell you how many singles and couples I work with who say they want to be in a sizzling relationship that satisfies but, they are not open to be or do anything different to have what they say they want.
Be honest with yourself.
If summer lovin’ showed up in your yoga class, at the coffee shop, at a business seminar, in the doctor’s office, or at the grocery store—would you be open to receive?
Or would you criticize the way it showed up, reject it, avoid it, question it, freeze up with ambivalence, be too distracted to notice it?
Or would you push it away because you weren’t comfortable in your own skin to be seen, devoured, and raptured by love?
Do you know what you want so that you will have eyes to see him or her when they appear?
Do you know who you have to BE to have the sizzlin’ hot relationship you want this summer?
Ingredients to Heat Up Attraction
1. Be open to receive: expect love to show up plus be prepared to respond to its advances plus free yourself to be seen and devoured.
2. Know what you want in detail.
3. Be the person who is comfortable in the presence of what you want.
This requires that you do things and participate in opportunities to become comfortable experiencing the very thing you want. Yes, you can visualize it. Yes, you can set intentions for it. Those are great strategies for creating expectancy and belief in the possibility. But, until you have an experience of what you want (body to body, energetic exchange) and are able to hold onto yourself and stay open to receive in the presence of what you want ... you won’t be able to sustain the heat. You will then do things unconsciously that turn down the heat.
Let’s talk practical examples.... Say you want a fun, spontaneous, romantic partner to show up and heat up your love life. But, you can’t remember the last time you allowed yourself to have fun, be spontaneous and your uncomfortable with romantic gestures. Well, waiting until he/she appears to free yourself to have fun, be spontaneous, and become comfortable with romance isn’t going to help you be open to receive love when it appears. You have to be fun, spontaneous and become comfortable with romance NOW. This may mean you have to be willing to give this to yourself first, create these opportunities for yourself, and practice receiving this from the one’s in your life now.
That’s right ... on those first encounters get your flirt on. On those first and second dates be fun, be spontaneous and in your present fizzled relationship practice eating up the romantic gestures that come your way and take responsibility to create romantic moments. Let yourself be devoured and relish the pleasure.
I will leave you to play with these ingredients this week.
