“My younger sister is engaged.” The email somberly reported. “Could we book a session? I am a mess.”
Why is it that the lack of a ring on your finger can cause so much pain? Carole (not her real name) choked out her feelings. “She is nine years younger than me. Nine. Josh is crazy about her and he is so romantic it makes me sick. My throat gets as tight as a knot. Then I feel horrible. I LOVE my sister. I don’t want to feel like this but I can’t help it. It should be me. How can she get married first?”
Her story turned into sobs. I sat silently on the phone and listened. Like a spring storm, the sobbing subsided and blowing her nose, she sighed. “What if it never happens for me? What if I am a lonely bitter old woman with a hundred cats? I can’t stand it … and now I am going to have to be in HER wedding.” Sobs reignited …
Slowly but surely, Carole and I turned the flow of her thoughts back into a better place and she recommitted to her own personal love-attraction plan. There is no question that the engagement of a younger sibling, brother or sister, is a painful thing for the long-time single woman.
That naked left ring finger makes a public spectacle out of itself. There it is, out there for everyone to see. LOSER. It takes a mighty strong woman to see this in herself, this branding from the lack of a ring. It takes an even more magical woman to make the decision to do something about it.
Oprah and Goldie Hawn come to mind. Two mega-successful, beautiful, vibrant, talented and influential women who have naked left ring fingers. What is it that separates them from other women who let frustration about their relationship status steal their happiness?
Can you control whether or not you are single? Obviously not or you wouldn’t be reading this article. Can you control how much LOVE is in your life? Absolutely. THAT I can teach you.
I run my ideas by my husband (soon we will be celebrating our fifth anniversary back in Hawaii where we tied
There is nothing more attractive than a happy, confident woman. Men cannot resist a genuine smile, the one that comes from deep inside. That kind of smile works like magic. Can you control how much true happiness is behind your smile? Absolutely, I can teach you that, too.
You are one tough cookie. You have been on your own most of your life and you can take care of business. If you are like the women who contact me, you are also pretty darn tired of doing life by yourself. Sound familiar?
