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It’s Complicated

I have fallen in love for the first time in my life. I thought I loved before but it’s never felt this way. I can’t stop this feeling. The man I love is my best friend ... We talk a lot, but never about love. We hang out but always avoid the subject. I’m stuck in the friend zone. He says that he doesn’t love anyone. He has never asked me who I love. My friends keep telling me to give him clues so that he will know that I like him. I don’t know if I should do it. I love him and being without him is breaking my heart. I wish so desperately that he would kiss me or ask me out. I don’t know what to do! Should I take my friends’ advice? Should I kiss him? Should I ask him to be my boyfriend? How do I get out of the friend zone?

Help me, please!

First published April 2011

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You are welcome, my dear. I wish you and your love all the best! Remember to communicate to your guy with your verbal language. It's what he understands best. Take care!

Thanks John! I did that and it worked. He told me he might love me too and he asked me out. He kissed me on our first date and he is now my boyfriend. Thank you for your advice. It really worked.

PART 2: Now after hitting him between the eyes like this, he will need some time to figure it out. So give him some space – one week is more than enough time. If he doesn’t get back to you, then he is not interested, and he is really not the kind of guy you want anyway. (Indecision is a lack of confidence, right?) Don’t push it. The ball is in his court and he knows it. Give him a week. If he won’t respond definitively one way or the other, then you need to start letting this go. You will feel much better about yourself in the long run if you do all this.

PART 1: Sweetheart, men don't understand clues or hints. He cannot and will not read your mind. If you want him to know something - anything - you must TELL him. Take him aside, make sure the two of you are alone for at least 15 minutes, and make sure you have an escape, or a way out. A dinner date is NOT the best place to do this. And a phone call might actually be in order here. Tell him point blank: "Listen! I have very deep feelings for you. I think I am in love with you. And I'd like to know how you feel about me." That may seem foolish, but it is much more foolish to just wish for it to happen. Be prepared! He may NOT love you. If he is a person of good character, though, he will respect you. If he is NOT of good character, he may use this info to take advantage of you. As awful as that sounds, it's best to know it as soon as possible. That way you don't waste time - YOUR LIFE - waiting, hoping, dreaming, etc. for something that was never going to exist in the first place.