Why Do I Waste My Time and Energy On You?

Time and energy are precious commodities. We can never seem to get enough of it or have enough of it. So, why do you continue to invest your precious time and energy into a relationship or marriage that no longer works for you?  Why do you continue to invest your time chasing someone that’s not worth what you have to offer?   The answer is simple. You’re settling. You are settling for someone that may not show you the love that you deserve. You are settling for the lies, inconsistencies, and disrespect. Oh, I am sorry. He/she maybe stroking your ego from time to time and maybe even putting it down in the bedroom. The sexual love and attention is so good that you disregard your real worth. Or maybe it’s the opposite. They don’t even touch you anymore or even notice you. He or she just tolerates you because you bring something to the relationship; finances, kids or material possessions. It’s probably cheaper to keep you.  You are worth more. You need to recognize that despite of what you have been through or the baggage you may carry, you are worth more than what you’re getting.  Don’t continue to invest your time and energy into someone undeserving of your love. Life is too short to settle. So, why are you?

Good Luck!
Shuntai Beaugard, Relationship Coach
 
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01.26.2012
randjijo
This is exactly what I needed to hear or should I say read at this moment. I have been fending off an Ex who keeps emailing me. I'm so used to having to keep him happy and calm that even a one or two word response to emails is really so much more than he deserves from me. His actions recently and in the past have caused me anxiety, depression, sleep disorders and even financial troubles. Even though I know that I deserve better than this I am still programmed to automatically want to appease him in any way possible. This always makes me feel like less than nothing, stressed and exhausted in every possible way. In fact for the past few weeks all I do is work, then come home and go straight to bed. If I wake up I try to eat but mostly just try to feel human again. Thank you for writing this, I ask myself these questions all the time. But now they seem real and plausible. Which means moving on and not pleasing him 24/7 is also a reality. Thank you soo much..
Thanks for your comments everyone. The ultimate gift for a writer is being able to write from your heart and relate to real people. Uplifting and encouraging others feels wonderful.
01.16.2012
MARY K D
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01.16.2012
MARY K D
I can truly relate to what you are going thru and have been in your situaton, don't think of yourself as a loser! you are not...remember a man will do what you allow them to do..and he tolded me that ....that was the best words he ever told me ....that was my weapon i needed to get out....when you get the strenght to show him you mean what you say and say what you mean!!! you will see a difference he will try to keep that power struggle under his control......don't let your guards down....the bed thing stokng it like the way you want it ....he know how and when to give you what you want to make you feel good....believe me someone else can do it just as well....don't settle for less you are beautiful...he wants you to feel no one else wants you....get out and do you!!! been in your same situation when i made a 360 with myself he could n't take it !!!!!they can dish it but can't take t ....lfe is to short to live in misery!!!!!pray and ask for strength he will give t to you!!!!!
01.15.2012
Paul
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It feels good to write.

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