In this the discovery is already disclosed before the process. The evidence needed has been directly in front of each and every one of us. Whether you chose to see it logically, distorted or try and dissect and analyze it, there is only one disgusting, deceitful, violating and betraying answer – all (solely) the violator’s responsibility.
Take a look at each one of us individually, then look at the hurt on our faces and then take us as a whole and see the destruction inflicted without any remorse. The hurt you may or may not see or hear is no comparison to anything another human should experience, or feel.
Every kind of abuse known to mankind was being used and very intentional. Lies, one after another. Morals buried under shoveled manure. All this for greed and selfishness at our expense. Realizing there never were any values or standards in his being.
Children used and given no thought to. Stealing their childhood, innocence and sense of security. Family validation and belonging were ripped from their rights. He’ll knock you, us down just to build himself up. I wonder if I did things differently what would of have happened differently. But for now it just makes sense to blame myself once again.
All this alone should be enough to put him in a jail cell with reality that would surround him. He would realize he is not invincible and can not intimidate people. He manipulated, magnifying my privacy to other people under false pretense.
Adultery is a disgusting act—cruel and inhumane. The obsession with sex and porn is disturbing and will etch in the innocent lives with the misfortune of seeing his enjoyment.
Married to a spouse is not a given right for rape especially rape of choice. This act is for pigs. The root of all evil is money, and sex leaving family meaningless.
The haunting memories of hindsight place so much guilt and remorse, there are sleepless nights, and feelings of being sick. Victims thinking how stupid it was to accept and overlook or to even think things would get better – never realizing all along and in the end... it’s all at the expense of the children.
The degrading, submission and controlling man trusted and loved planned his get a way knowing there will be some degree of hurt, and extreme suffering, but only for a second, and on with his goals. No thought to look back and make sure we are at least ok, taken care of, on our feet—not even for his own children’s sake.
A person like this is no man and deserves nothing. If a man chooses to marry and start a family you can’t quit and hang them out to dry after years of love and devotion.
What and who gives him the right to make the decision to change our lives forever without any warning, leaving us with no choice, opportunities, or a chance to make a plan. With no friends or family we discovered what standing in the desert feels like.
Leading a double life for so long gives him plenty of time to distance himself, ease into her life and out of ours. Like a stroll in the park, emptying the trash. For years lay with the woman you take vows with, and for years lay with the woman you didn’t.....that is disgusting.
I have also discovered being used as a person has a whole new meaning. I discovered even the blood in my veins hurt everyday from what he has done – and there will never be a cure for that – never.
