Ten Reasons Men Cheat

Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top ten reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Apparently not always.

Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:

1. Because they had the option.
The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.

2. It boosts their ego.
Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.

3. You grow apart.
Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.

4. You argue a lot.
Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.

5. They have fallen out of love.
Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.

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05.12.2009
Tiffany
I wanted to let everyone know that about a year and a half ago a friend of mine posted some very true things about my ex on womansavers.com and she told me about it after she did it, I didnt have a computer at the time so I never seen it and about 6 months later I got a letter from his attorney where I was living at the time stating if I didnt take it off he was going to sue me and I was not able to remove it because I didnt post it, he sent me a copy of the post and everything in it was true. I tried to remove it and was unable to since I didnt know the info of the person who posted it. I tried to call my frien who did post it and I could never seem to get a hold of her and she didnt have the same number anymore, she was living in an abusive relationship herself and was having problems and ended up moving, he ended up suing me for 9,000.00 dollars for defamation of character. I dont have any idea what happened because I never got served any papers and I didnt go to court.
02.04.2009
Ms.Kisha
I'm doing a report on "Why men cheat" and there were alot of the same reason I had. All the men in my life have cheated starting with my grandfather to me being the other woman. I am 28 now and I look at things differently. I do not want to be cheated on, but men are going to do as they please. All I can do is have good communication and have an emotional connection.
12.03.2008
TheAmazon
As a woman, I would have to say that women are every bit as likely to cheat as men. If a married man cheats, he would presumably do so with a woman (although that is obviously not always the case). Any person who engages in sexual activity with someone who is married, and knows that the person is married, is every bit as wrong as the married person. Perhaps some will consider that too black-and-white a view, and I don't mean it in the case of swingers, or people who agree beforehand that they will have other partners, but I think that if you are going to be married, it is a commitment that should be taken seriously. After all, it is perfectly acceptable in today's society to merely live with someone. I think it is a matter of honor and integrity to be faithful to one's partner, and if that becomes impossible, then one must be honest about it and accept the consequences. No one deserves to be lied to, especially by the person they should be able to trust the most.
12.03.2008
alpha dominance
Oh my god, this is rich. These poll results are taken directly from Ms. Alexanders womansavers.com website. Ladies, would you ever cheat? Yes, if I could get away with it 3597 votes (45%) Yes, but I'd feel guilty 957 votes (12%) No, I have too much respect for my partner 1849 votes (23%) No, cheating is immoral 1506 votes (19%) As well as: Ladies, do you still believe in the institution of marriage? Yes, strongly 7025 votes (82%) Yes, but only if you plan on having children 267 votes (3%) No, I've seen/had enough bad experience to not want to get married 819 votes (10%) No, I'd rather just live together 485 votes (6%) What is striking to me is that the preponderance of women both advocate marriage, and would cheat if they thought they could get away from it. This is unreal. Over here implying men cheat on those poor, innocent self sacrificing women, while the reality of the situation is that women are of no higher character obviously.
12.03.2008
alpha dominance
The author posits that since we are more evolved than chimps, we should be able to control our instincts. This presumes that the genetic distance between humans and chimps is a vast gulf, whereas in actuality the difference is hardly statistically significant. The most generous estimates claim a 1.5% difference between our species, but many studies find only 0.5% difference. For all practical intents and purposes were are the same with regard to our drives and instincts. Chimps incidentally do not form pair bonds, and typically have multiple sexual partners. Furthermore, the presumption that the conscious mind controls most of human behavior is fallacious. The vast majority of behavior is instigated in the primal mind and only hits the cerebral cortex after the action has been initiated. It is truly a case of consciously justifying actions we've already taken. Additionally, our culture penalizes men for marriage as divorce law is inequitable. http://alphadominance.com/?p=14
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