It’s a known fact, girls. No matter how much we figure it’s not going to happen to us, over half of the couples living in the U.S. today cheat on their spouses. Whether it seems perfectly innocent to the guilty parties, it doesn’t help to erase the doubts and trust that their partners once had in them. No one wants to catch their spouse cheating, of course, but what do you do when it does happen?
A new book by dating expert, Lisa Daily, titled Fifteen Minutes of Shame, confronts the husband-cheating issue in such a fun way that you can’t help but to laugh at Darby Vaughn, a small-town girl turned dating guru, who has finally landed the life she’s always dreamed up with the handsome husband, fabulous home and a best-selling dating book when her life is turned upside down after she finds out her husband is cheating which sends her publicity-perfect world spins out of control.
Ouch!
Even though this book is fiction, it exemplifies a lot of marriages today. What makes husbands cheat and what can we do to avoid it?
I asked author Lisa Daily if you she could shed some light on this and I think you’ll be delighted there is help and there are precautions you can take.
Thank you for this interview, Lisa. Tell me, why do you think husbands cheat?
Thank you! I think most husbands who cheat do so for two reasons: 1) either they’re predisposed to cheat (and have probably been cheating on you—and every other person they’ve ever been with—all along) or they’re faced with a situation in which the opportunity to cheat presents itself. One type of husband is looking for any opportunity to fool around, the other sort of backs into it.
Women blame themselves in a lot of these situations. What can you tell them to make them understand that no matter how perfect you are, it can happen through no fault of theirs, and what can they do about it when it does happen?
Generally when a man cheats, it’s about his fear, his insecurity, his lack of control or his unwillingness to check his libido. It’s very rare that a woman’s direct actions cause a man to cheat, (even if the guy blames you for it later) unless it’s some sort of retaliation for infidelity on your part. Many women have the feeling that they’re not good enough, if they’d been better wives, or sexier, or more attentive that their husbands wouldn’t have looked elsewhere, but the truth is, men generally cheat because they don’t feel good about themselves, or because they believe they won’t get caught and their wives will never know.
