Nothing strikes harder to the heart of the male ego than the possibility that whatever endowment he has been gifted by the Creator is not good enough for the job.
It doesn’t help when articles appear which state, “Yes, gentlemen, chances are that you could stand to have a larger penis. And yes, she’d probably like it to be a wee bit bigger as well.” The same article then states categorically that women prefer bigger penises. For a start the latter statement is not necessarily true, there are no absolutes in sex, only perhaps that the best sex comes through understanding and communication. Mind you the same article also implies that all that men prefer large breasted women, which is categorically not true.
This kind of overstatement and generalisation does nothing to create an environment conducive to a healthy and fulfilling sex life. We live in a world of averages. Most people are average, with the average male member being somewhere between five and six inches erect. What’s fortunate about this is that the average woman’s vagina at rest is around three or four inches in length and capable of expanding to fit pretty much most penises encountered.
The net result of this is that nature has seen to it that most people can get their bits together in a manner that is mutually satisfying.
Take vagina size for example. Over the years I have been fortunate enough to have encountered a great many, some very tight, some very loose. Where you get mismatches there are potentially problems. Some women are very small down there. A man with a very large thick penis is not going to be the ideal fit for her. Years ago a friend of mine, who had a particularly thick penis, would quite happily brag that he was “too big” for his girlfriend. This always struck me as a very odd boast. Surely it would be better to have a penis that was at least usable with most women? In all the lovers he had had to that point, which was a fair few, there was only one he had ever been able to penetrate fully.
I should have paired him up with an ex of mine who had the most capacious vagina I have ever experienced, it was truly sobering to encounter as the percentage of men who could have truly provided a tight fit for her would be very, very small indeed.
The problem is not helped by the fact that the penis is entirely on display, so in many ways it is vulnerable to criticism. The vagina is cunningly tucked away out of sight, so many women haven’t the faintest idea about the sheer variety of sizes they come in.
None of this moves away from the simple fact that some women do prefer a man to be endowed of equine proportions. But bigger is not necessarily better.
Take Karen, a social worker for example, “Two of my early boyfriends were very well endowed, one went on to be a male stripper, so you can imagine how big he was. It looked really impressive when erect, so much so a friend of mine was staying and I invited her in to have a look at it! But I didn’t really enjoy sex with him, it hurt and certain positions were pretty much impossible. The best sex I ever had was with my first husband who was more normal in size, he could still reach all the places I needed to be reached and because he didn’t hurt me, I had more orgasms in more positions more often.”
Did she miss the size of previous partners? “No, not at all. My current boyfriend is fairly average and I’m quite happy with him the way he is.”
Conversely, speak to Debbie, a pole dancer and her answer is very different, “I just like big cocks, the bigger the better.”
