Who wants to find a mate …?
Several years ago, I had a conversation with a male friend. Glenn, whom I had known for several years, once told me that, “a woman can get any man she wants.” I took his advice and it was not long that that realized that Glenn knew what he was talking about. Since that conversation, I told many of my single friends and they’re not single anymore. And yours truly is no longer single either. If you’re looking to pair up, or a friend who wants to pair up, listen up:
Let me advise you that if want to stay single and try these, you’ll break someone’s heart, and if you want to pair up, I warn you that you need to make sure you know what you want because if you meet the guy you want, and read the following, you’re going to end up with him.
Secondly, let him know what you want. Don’t scare him and told him that you want to get married and have a football team of children. That will scare anyone away man or woman. Let him know about you and find out about him. Really, talk with him and be his friend. Men like to open up although sometimes they seem reluctant. Trust me, they’re dying to spill their guts to someone they can trust. Remember, nothing sexist, but, as women, we get pregnant and carry the child for nine months (ok, granted that some of them decide that they have to come out sooner than nine months and your stuck with premature labor pain, but normally, the whole thing last nine months).
Without further digressing, as women, we nurse, feed, change diapers often until the child turns five and then we share then with a kindergarten teacher. Normally the kindergarten teacher is another woman. So women normally have primary influence over men. Getting to bond with a man is simple and easy. In fact, it is the most natural thing in the world. Unless he’s got some severe mental problem in which case, he needs a shrink not you.
If you know what a man wants, you have his heart. The secret is really not secret, some solid examples:
1. Get to know him, his likes and dislikes. If you listen to him, he will listen to you (he won’t listen to you after you marry him, just because he’s comfortable now and does not feel the pressure of having to charm you. He sees no point, he’s gotten the prize, something you can always work out later in the marriage and I wish you luck).
2. Let him get to know you—the real you, he may like it and if does not, he’s not worth your time and move on, (remember, there are billions of men and if you forget, pretend you’re in the New York City subway, if miss one train, there’s another coming).
3. Don’t waste your time with a man whom you know does not want to be with you. Do not, I repeat, do not take personally. It hurts to lose someone who want to be with, but while you’re mourning a jerk, or a guy who’s just not into you, you’re missing the opportunity to meet another man and possibly your dream guy).
4. If you know it won’t work, let it go—many women waste their time and take it so personally when they get “rejected” or when things do not work out with a guy they like. The “rejection” is in your head. You can choose and so can he. Trust me, often when a guy walks away, he does you a favor, because very likely, you were just unable to walk out on your own. Besides, why in this planet of billions of men, you’d want to be with just the one who does not want to be with you?
