Well here goes ladies, I’m fifty-four years old, and a retired security alarm company owner. Here is my story:
I love this man sooo much! If I listened to my therapist and friends, and not my heart, I would do things differently. But of course, some of us girls never do this.
Jeff and I were both married twenty-two years to other spouses. We met shortly after our divorce and fell hard for one another. Rebounding? Or maybe scared of being alone? Or needing to be rescued? Who knows, but we did. We dated for a year, then were married. When the new wore off, we struggled in our marriage to work our differences out and live in harmony. We couldn’t do it and this eventually led to a divorce.
We went our separate ways. Several months later, Jeff met someone and fell for her. This relationship was stormy from the first. They are on and off. Every time they are off, he calls me wanting to “rent a room” from me. Because I still love this man, and I go around with my heart in my hands (boohoo) I always say yes. First, let me say that Jeff has a good job with benefits and can afford his own place, but for some reason he calls me. (Nest syndrome?)
I keep praying and hoping that he will realize that we weren’t equipped emotionally to handle a second marriage and realize that we love one another enough to try again. He doesn’t know what he wants. He says he loves me and he loves her. He also knows he has no future with her and is trying to stay away from her. Actually, we are much better friends and confidants now. My eyes are open to the fact that he is obviously confused. My feelings are that I love him so much that I’m willing to give him some space to figure things out in his head. However, it’s so very hard and hurts so much.
Is there hope for this relationship?
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