What would happen if sex became an event? Not an event in the sense of “we always do it on Saturday nights,” but something orchestrated to fulfill a fantasy or surprise your partner. The preparation and anticipation alone would be memorable. Now consider the occasions that call for immediate action—where you don’t even manage to get all your clothes off, let alone fill a hotel room with flowers and bonbons, or pick up the doctor and nurse uniforms from the dry cleaners.
This month, we’re going to explore how you can enjoy the best of both worlds, with a little strategic planning—and a lot of throwing caution to the wind.
Why don’t we do it in the road? Though it may sound contradictory, preparation can make it easier—and more satisfying—to be spontaneous. If you and your partner are not typically impulsive but would like to be, talk about it. Share settings and situations that turn you on, so that next time the stars align and you’re in the car on a deserted highway, you’ll both be ready to take advantage. Since you’ve already shared your desires, you may only need to share a look to know the time is right.
Come prepared. Oh, is that a bullet vibe with lubricant, condoms, and feather tickler in my handbag? How convenient! Your impromptu rendezvous needn’t be all McGuyver-like improvisation. By keeping your favorite accoutrements handy, you give yourself more freedom to seize the day (among other things), and get swept up the moment without any distracting worries. Your action kit can also serve as a not-so-subtle reminder to look for new opportunities throughout the day.
Fly under the radar. What’s planned for one can be spontaneous for the other. There’s a lot of fun to be had in surprising your partner with the perfectly arranged tryst. For one, making your plans can provide days or weeks of delicious anticipation. This persistent low-level arousal heightens the experience for you when the time finally comes—and, of course, the thrill it’ll give your partner will be a reward in itself. Such thoughtfulness can help deepen your relationship with your partner, build intimacy, and set the stage for more exploration.
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