Butterflies, chemistry, vibes, that feeling of being tingly all over—there are many ways to describe infatuation. We’ve all had crushes, from the very first moment we locked eyes on that guy or girl in the playground. All it takes is that special someone to make our palms sweaty and our hearts pound.
Dante had Beatrice, Petrarch had Laura, and Shakespeare had his Dark Lady. In the Middle Ages, it was considered a sign of valor for a knight to have his lady love. The courtly love ideal was an infatuation that could never be consummated. The thought was that the experience of infatuation elevated one’s mind to higher, nobler thoughts and deeds.
But crushes aren’t all stars and symphonies. Most objects of infatuation are unattainable and the potential for hurt feelings is high. (That’s why they’re called “crushes.”) So high, in fact, that neuroscientist Larry Young has mentioned the possibility of a future anti-love drug. A frequent synonym given for infatuation is “folly,” suggesting that the ultimate effects of a crush reduce mental capacity and cause grave consequences from the stupidity of fixated passion, as it did in the medieval tale of Tristan and Isolde, who accidentally consumed a love potion and turned into hopeless addicts.
The idea of a potion for love is no doubt based on the observation that we seemed to be hooked on the stuff; we’re all junkies for that rush of emotion. We even seek out celebrities to crush on when we run short of people to pursue with blind devotion. So what are crushes—and what purpose do they serve?
The Chemical High
They say laughter is the best medicine, but the real medicine might be infatuation. When we’re attracted to someone, our bodies release chemicals that are both beneficial and pleasurable. Phenylethylamine (PEA) speeds up the communication between nerve cells and triggers the release of dopamine, which creates a feeling of bliss. Diane Ackerman, author of The Nature of Love and A Natural History of the Senses, attributes the motivation needed to take social risks to the frenzy of excitement PEA creates, giving the chemical an essential role in overcoming obstacles to mating and ensuring species survival. Norepinepherine stimulates adrenaline production. Combined, these three chemicals act as amphetamines, elevating energy and mood levels. Their effects usually last from six months to three years, after which people either decide to stick with each other or find a new high.
