12. Refuse to talk about your feelings. Men, I gotta tell you this. I know it’s tough for some of you, but revealing that soft mushy inner part of you? It’s a huge turn on for many women. Even coming home and going on a long rant about your stupid boss? Huge turn on.
13. Refuse to listen to your spouse talk. Most women tell me that they need to feel close to their partner in order to get in the mood, and being listened to makes them feel close.
14. Wait until your partner is halfway into a dream before initiating. A better strategy? Mention at bedtime that you’d like to get busy the next day. Ask for a breakfast date. That way you’ll both be energetic, and you’ll be less stressed all day long.
15. Attempt the Cuddle Mount. You’ve read that women like cuddling, so you cozy up to her as she’s falling asleep. As soon as she responds in any way, you crawl on top and attempt a mount. In a word: uh-uh. To use cuddling to your advantage? Do it every night, only attempting the cuddle-to-mount technique once or twice a week. Even better, insert a few unique moves between the cuddle and the mount, just to mix things up.
16. Do the same foreplay moves in the same order every single time. Too predictable. Yawn. I’ve got floors to scrub.
17. Get naked and go right for the main event. This might be a turn on for some men (my husband is one of them). But for most women? It’s annoying. A naked man’s body just isn’t the same kind of draw as a naked woman’s body. It may not be fair, but it’s the honest truth. Plus, it also takes the average woman a lot longer to warm up to sex than it takes the average man. Help her warm up to the situation with some romantic foreplay.
18. Make it all about you. The best way to get your partner to enjoy having sex with you? Worship your partner in the bedroom.
19. Ask if she or he has gained weight.
20. Refuse to help around the house. When women are stressed and tired? They have a hard time getting in the mood. If your spouse does 100 percent of the housework, child raising, and cooking—and works full time on top of it? Sex is going to fall off the priority list.
21. Assume you know everything when it comes to sex. Unless you are a sex therapist or a porn star, you probably don’t. It’s quite possible that your spouse doesn’t want to do it very often because you don’t know how to rock your spouse’s sexual world. Never stop learning. Never stop improving.
Originally published on SmakNews
